"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i just dropped her a msged recently . chat on the phone with her, for 3hrs straight, she kept continuing the conversation, even though she says shes gotta rest n sleep its 230am , well i was more of a listener she does 80% of the talk. i just fuel the conversation with short ques n replies. afterwhich and asked her out ... smoothly i suppose.

we went out together, had lunch, watched movie, had dinner, sent her home.

while watching movie she leans towards the arm rest on my side.
she walks quite close to me.
shes talkative
talks alot. so i guess our conversation was spontaneous
but i didnt talk much. she kept reminding me that my answers are short.
affter which i sent her home. i confessed under her block in the car.i told her i have liked her for 8years.
and we sort of chatted for 3hrs in the car
she opened up alot
told me that in the past she would have ignored it
but now she is able to talk abt it openly


she went home. i cant stop thinking abt her

i called her again the day before yesterday.

we chatted though
it was short , maybe 45 mins
she was ranting on herself, slacking around etc

she did mentioned that
the day before her friend from overseas called her to chat.
she said. normally she would have hung up shortly, but since her friend was overseas they chatted.


well ive confessed. seems like its going no where.
she might just be the talkative sort that opens up easily
though she said shes quiet with strangers etc.. no confidence, yadda yadda........


i think she implied that we didnt contact each other that often?
she hasnt been in a relationship before thats what she told me.
i suppose shes afraid to go into one with me?

so what do you guys suggest?
ive confessed the same thing last year
gave up and tried again this year

continue or give up.

this was what happened last year
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=47828

this year was better though
her response


read somewhere that lengthy phone conversations are big NONOs

so i guess i wouldnt be calling her anytime soon except to ask her out..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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when i told her i liked her this time she told me that she remembered that i told her i liked her before
 

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I'd suggest read the bible. All your answers are there.
 

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Ditto. Rather than analyze the situation and point out where the mistakes are, just start reading the bible and it will all become clear to you.
 

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ive read all the articles

but

wat i want is comments from u people
suggestions perhaps
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Whoa. First, three hours on the phone is too much. 15 minutes is about the limit. If you like this chick, the only reason to call is to set up a date or to make plans. If you want to talk for three hours, do it in person and keep it fresh and light.

So basically, you told this girl last year that you had the hots for her?

How would you evaluate her IL?

IMO, from reading your other thread, your either being too damn timid, or her IL is at 0%. If she 'likes' you now, go for it. Trust me, beating around the bush is not gonna get your ass laid. You don't have to confess your feelings to her...infact, it's not even advisable to do so. Actions work better.

If you want to bypass all this bullsh*t, kiss her next time your together alone. You'll get your answer in 2 seconds.
 

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Originally posted by Hydesg


well ive confessed. seems like its going no where.
she might just be the talkative sort that opens up easily
though she said shes quiet with strangers etc.. no confidence, yadda yadda........

so what do you guys suggest?
ive confessed the same thing last year
gave up and tried again this year

Relationship dont "go" anywhere, somebody has to take it somewhere. Im sure she does not know that you are expecting her to move this further. Girl waiting plus Guy waiting equals AFC.

Do Something pimpen. Most women I talk too are clueless to the fact that men are cowards inside and expect them to do all the work. She doesn't know you have giving over the reigns and expect her as the woman to make the first move.

Man-up pimpen!
 

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would kissing her be abit too sudden?
i dont think she would be receptive of the kiss
she might even get turned off


what ive tot abt is
i might just hold her hand and tell her that we should be together

if its positive
then i might make the kiss move
or rather hug her first

let her be assured
 
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