"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ok guys
Im having some personal issues here...
the last 3 times I've had sex with my girl, I have pretty much finished within the first minute of intercourse....

im a bit scared... i dont wanna dissapoint her... I think im going to a doctor to get myself cheked up.

is there any exercises i could do or what works or doesnt work when it comes to lasting longer in bed... ive heard of kegel exercises... how exactly do they work??

this is frustrating as you can undersand...
I've tried masturbating an hour before i see her,, and this seems to help,,, but whenever i do it for the first time... then i finish quick.... it seems that the tip of my DIk is to sensitive and it just happens...

what can I do as far as techniques,,, or pills
thanks a lot
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Been in the same boat as you (I'm assuming that you're still new to sex), as has most every man here.

1. Stop masturbating. When you masturbate you are trying to orgasm, you are not enjoying the moment. You've been doing this for years. As a result, whenever you start to feel friction or something that stimulates your ****, your subconscious associates it with trying to orgasm. If you stop masturbating, you will find yourself being able to last longer physically. You have a girlfriend that gives you sex, you have no need for masturbating anymore. So don't do it when you have a girlfriend. Ever.

2. Watch your breathing. Exhale when you thrust in, inhale when you pull out. Breath audibly. This helps you pace yourself, it turns her on to know that you're enjoying it, makes the moment more intimate, and when I was in your position (i.e. when I was new to sex and I was still insecure with myself and my preformance) I actually got less turned on by hearing myself grunt audibly which I guess helped.

3. Lasting longer physically is only half of it, your mentality is also just as important. The more you think about trying to not ***, the faster you will (it's like this: If someone tells you "Don't look", what's the first thing you instinctively do? Same principle.). I'm guessing it takes you forever to *** when she gives you head, too. You're so worried about finishing early/taking too long that you do it anyway. Kind of weird how that works. The point is to be absorbed in the moment. When you're having sex, focus on pleasing her. Play with her tits, smack her ass, talk dirty. Tell her how good it feels ****ing her ****. The point is to not sweat it. The sooner you stop giving a **** the sooner you start laster longer, and who really cares? It's your girl, she understands and she's there for you.

Everyone has to go over this hurdle, you'll be fine.
 
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Brighty said:
Been in the same boat as you (I'm assuming that you're still new to sex), as has most every man here.

1. Stop masturbating. When you masturbate you are trying to orgasm, you are not enjoying the moment. You've been doing this for years. As a result, whenever you start to feel friction or something that stimulates your ****, your subconscious associates it with trying to orgasm. If you stop masturbating, you will find yourself being able to last longer physically. You have a girlfriend that gives you sex, you have no need for masturbating anymore. So don't do it when you have a girlfriend. Ever.

2. Watch your breathing. Exhale when you thrust in, inhale when you pull out. Breath audibly. This helps you pace yourself, it turns her on to know that you're enjoying it, makes the moment more intimate, and when I was in your position (i.e. when I was new to sex and I was still insecure with myself and my preformance) I actually got less turned on by hearing myself grunt audibly which I guess helped.

3. Lasting longer physically is only half of it, your mentality is also just as important. The more you think about trying to not ***, the faster you will (it's like this: If someone tells you "Don't look", what's the first thing you instinctively do? Same principle.). I'm guessing it takes you forever to *** when she gives you head, too. You're so worried about finishing early/taking too long that you do it anyway. Kind of weird how that works. The point is to be absorbed in the moment. When you're having sex, focus on pleasing her. Play with her tits, smack her ass, talk dirty. Tell her how good it feels ****ing her ****. The point is to not sweat it. The sooner you stop giving a **** the sooner you start laster longer, and who really cares? It's your girl, she understands and she's there for you.

Everyone has to go over this hurdle, you'll be fine.
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I have just recently figured this out. BREATHING is hugely underrated. follow these steps and you'll be fine. +1 rep Brighty
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Perry said:
I have just recently figured this out. BREATHING is hugely underrated. follow these steps and you'll be fine. +1 rep Brighty
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Thanks man. Also, a bump to make sure pipe got this.
 
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So, prior to these 3 times you never had a problem? If that's the case then you're thinking about it too much, rather than just going for it. I find even for myself I have to remind myself sometimes to just relax, breath, and make sure I'm losening the muscles in my body.

You could also try kegels - I noticed as I got into my 40s things started changing a bit and I read about them and have been doing them for about 6 months. I've found they've made huge difference in hardness and stamina and really have been well worth the time, also notice I've gained a lot of control. Thing is you have to do them every day for at least 4-5 months before you really start seeing the true value of them.

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awesome replies guys
the reason for my concern is that the tip of my pen1s is super sensitive... i think it has been conditioned this way for past years of masturbation that lead to quick orgasms...

so yea I DO HAVE the problem... in the past i've had to jack off an hour before sex so i can perform

but its time to do something about it, I mIght go get cheked with a doctor

1. today i started doing kegel exercises... ten repetitions 10 times per day
2. breathing exercises will try them during sex
3. visualizations, and become more confident in my self concept of a guy who can last longer in bed.
4. the sart stop technique.. will use it... desensitization technique,,, during sex.. when about to get to the point of no return.. you stop.. let 20 seconds pass.. and continue..

i started doing these things today.. will see how it works out for me... if all else fails i will go to the doctor.. maybe i need pills
 
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