"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pregnancy?! Htf?!

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Hey,

I feel really bad right now...

I've had sex (well, laying naked on eachother, fingering and stuff) with a girl 6 weeks ago (2nd week of july)
Her ovulation was 1 week after we had 'sex' (I didn't put my d*ck in her, not did I *** in/on her) 2 weeks after her ovulation she had a menstruation (she claims it was less than usual, but it could be a psychological thing?)
Now, last week (started 2/3 days ago) she complains having stomach ache, her breast seem swollen and her belly seems larger (sorry for my english;))

Now even her parents ask her if she had intercourse, because they think she may be pregnant...she's going to see a doc tomorrow...

I am really nervous...I study medicine, so I know something about pregnancy and stuff, and I don't know what to think...I mean it wasn't the time, I didn't *** in her and she had her period...still. if she's not pregnant, what could it be?!:S Shes only 17 and Im only 19 (it's legal in our country btw....so dont start about that;))

Please respond asap...
maybe you have encountered something similar once, so you know what she could have?

thanks so much!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have had similar situations, and most likely she is not prego! If she is she must be doing somebody else.

I have had a few girls think they were prego after we had sex. Very scary and you will fill bad, but don't let it get to you.

Some girls have this psychological pregnancy that happens. They almost fool their bodies into being prego. She may have even gone so far as to increase her diet.

Sexual activities (not including intercourse) stimulate the same hormones as sex with intercourse, so her body is going to adjust to the hormonal change.

Don't stress out, and just see what the DR. says. A girl at that age is still going through hormonal changes anyway.

I actually had one girl that I had sex with (but didn’t finish.. long story…) that thought she was prego. I told her I didn’t ejaculate in her, but we both knew of pre-ejaculation. She went to the DR. and found out she wasn’t. She showed similar symptoms that you described. The DR. told her that it was hormonal and they also found out she had overran cists.
 
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Can anybody say, "Hor baby - bastard child"!!!!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Randallpink83 said:
:crackup: ...i like laughing.
So tell me, what would you do if you and a girl are incredibly horny and there are no condoms around?
Do you still laugh then? cause I would...Hahahaha. :crackup:

As for the other replies...thanks for the hormone story, it sounds really logical to me too, all of these symptoms are estrogen related so:)

And I can tell you with 100% certainty that I'm the only guy she was with for the past 8 months atleast (and I know you sosuave guys, and probably tell me that I shouldn't trust her or something:p but just assume this is a fact)

now, I feel less scared :) just wait untill tomorrow:) I'll post you the results:)
 

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yeah, I had my ex-gf think that she was pregnant (thank god that she wasn't) because she missed three periods after I started doing stuff with her. Then it came back and I was thanking god for that.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Heres what I think..

Soyoushave said:
Hey,

I feel really bad right now...

I've had sex (well, laying naked on eachother, fingering and stuff) with a girl 6 weeks ago (2nd week of july)
Her ovulation was 1 week after we had 'sex' (I didn't put my d*ck in her, not did I *** in/on her) 2 weeks after her ovulation she had a menstruation (she claims it was less than usual, but it could be a psychological thing?)
Now, last week (started 2/3 days ago) she complains having stomach ache, her breast seem swollen and her belly seems larger (sorry for my english;))

She is cramping and and starting her period. Women get bloated on their periods and have swollen (tender) breast.

Now even her parents ask her if she had intercourse, because they think she may be pregnant...she's going to see a doc tomorrow...

If she is pregnat there will be morning sickness. Which is where she will feel like throwing up at the site of food or smell of food. Also, she wouldn't have started her period.

I am really nervous...I study medicine, so I know something about pregnancy and stuff, and I don't know what to think...I mean it wasn't the time, I didn't *** in her and she had her period...still. if she's not pregnant, what could it be?!:S Shes only 17 and Im only 19 (it's legal in our country btw....so dont start about that;))

Even if you did not c&m inside her. You still can get semen resen on the tip of your penis which could have got her pregnat. I'd say your safe unless some significant signs of pregnacy occur.

Please respond asap...
maybe you have encountered something similar once, so you know what she could have?

thanks so much!
 

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sure, someone "can" get pregnant just on pre-ejaculation but its almost never heard of, and it seems that you didn't even get to pre-ejaculate in her body.
therefore, use this rule of thumb...
no confetti in there = no babies

i think she is either playing with your head, or her head is playing with herself.
something is amiss here.

tummy aches and swollen breasts are a sure sign to me that my period is about to start.
swirly whirly feelings that make me vomit until i dry heave , being so worn out over nothing whereas i can not even pick my head off the pillow without feeling the life sucked outta me and suddenly getting a big ole' butt, the smell of meat cooking making me gag until i vomit some more and sudden urges to eat chinese egg rolls before i kill someone = i'm pregnant.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Heres what I think..
actually, i had 2 regular periods when i was pregnant with my last child, which is why i did not know i was as far along as i was. the dr was able to determine this via blood test (hcg hormore gets higher everyday in pregnancy) and ultrasound.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She's a hor. She probably just had sex with someone else. Get a paternity test, I suppose, but my guess is that the bastard is someone else's.

edit -- ok, just read zerocelcius's advice so I guess you could be totally in the clear. Why'd you even bother posting if she hadn't taken any pregnancy tests yet?
 

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Obsidian said:
She's a hor. She probably just had sex with someone else. Get a paternity test, I suppose, but my guess is that the bastard is someone else's.

edit -- ok, just read zerocelcius's advice so I guess you could be totally in the clear. Why'd you even bother posting if she hadn't taken any pregnancy tests yet?
he didn't even put his **** in her according to his post.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Heres what I think..
I know all this, the only thing that I couldn't quite get was why does she notice it this time, and not all those other times...even her mother noticed her breast getting bigger o.0

on a side note...she's @ the dr. now, and I should be getting a call from her as soon as she's out...so between now and half an hour...very nervous now, even though I know chances are slim...

I'll update as soon as I know:)
 

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penkitten said:
he didn't even put his **** in her according to his post.
Indeed...only thing I'm scared off, is that I might have had a little pre-ejac. on my fingers when fingering her...yeah I know it really is the hard way to get it in...and that's the most logical explanation if any semen would've gotten in so:p

I'll just wait for an answer...:nervous:
 

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Halleluja:D:p

she has a bloated belly because of some problem with her peristaltics...(her guts:p) (so that explains her stomach ache too)

And there was no real explanation for her larger breasts...her period is still 2 weeks away...ah well, I shouldn't complain about a girl with bigger breasts right:p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thats good man, now go relax a bit.

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Next time go ahead and pop one in her, that way you can secure a good fertilization. Ha ha ha ha ha ha hha ha ha ha ha


just jokin: Congrats.....I have had a few scares along the years myself....and I have been real lucky
 

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Crazy feeling isn't it?

Congratulations on the negative prego! Hope she gets better soon.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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