“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Predicament: Job offered by fling's father

tryst type

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As title states, there's a girl I've been seeing like once a week, sometimes once every two weeks who I consider a fling but I can sense she's more invested.

Today she texts saying her dad is looking for help and she mentioned me because of my skills, which I currently do not have a job in, I'm just at a sh*tty labor job. So this would mean a door into a real career.

Thing is, I feel I would have a huge burden and feel her father looming over me expecting that I'm more serious about his daughter etc. let alone what she would expect from me in regards to her etc.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SgtSplacker

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Her father not only thinks you are some awesome kid that likes his daughter because his daughter spoke so highly of you, but also thinks you posses some skill you do not have.

The first thing that guy is going to do is see if you are worth being with his daughter and the job he just gave you by testing your skills.

What do you think?
 

Willard

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What do you have to lose? If you work your ass off and her father likes you you aren't going to lose your job as long as you don't dump her in a terrible way.
 

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Dear Tryst,
Much easier to get another job if you have one!...See this as a stepping stone.
 

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Take the job, distance yourself from the woman (ok dump her) because it's a hard rule with you that you never date corporate stock or family of corporate stock. The company must come first!

SH
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zunder

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No. Do not take the job. Do you really have even think about why you need to turn your this offer down? Even if this was not a plate but a real girlfriend, do you really want a girl getting you a job? Where's your pride? Why don't you just cut off your balls and give them to this chick while you go work for her daddy.
 

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truth will be, he want to know what kind of guy his daughter is going out with, so he have a work spot and want to use it, thing is after you start to work and shows you are good even if you end things with her you will keep the job, but also don't take the job if you think you can't haddle it.

but lets say think on worse case scenario, you start to distance yourself and his daughter complain to him and then he fire you, can you find another job like the previous one easy? or even a better one?it more on how good you think you can do things and work.
 

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It really depends on how serious of a fling this is and what kind of Dad she has. If this chick is fvcking crazy over you it could be bad news.

In any case I think if you take the job this will always be an issue until you move on.

(Unless of course you have a single friend you could hook her up with....:))
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Peaks&Valleys

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^ spoiler alert bro?

Also, she's not his wife....

who I consider a fling but I can sense she's more invested
Little bit of a difference there...

Don't take the job OP. Like owing somebody money, you will forever be their b1tch until you pay it back. She's trying to rope you in, keep you in her sites. If you're working for her DAD, you'll always be close by, and forever in debt to her, obligated to treat her well... HER DAD would be your BOSS, she would love nothing more.
 

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Social_Leper said:
Once you have the experience and the name on your CV it does not matter how you got it.
Personally, I'd rather clean out port o potties, but that's just me.
 

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If your current job sucks and you're unhappy and can't find a new one and this door is open why not explore it. Is this girl that bad? Keep things how they are once a week or so and be open to more if it feels right.
 
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