Pre Selection Issue

[Comatozed]

As something of a late bloomer, I find myself in a strange, somewhat difficult position. I've never been in a relationship.

I'm 22 years old. 6"4. Well educated with a decent job, average looking..so in theory I should be fine on that front.

However, I'm working in a city away from my social circle, and I already, at 22, feel like I've missed the boat with social circle girls anyway. I could do with changing the way they view me a little. One way to do this is to get into a relationship.

I have done well of late, but only really on the hook-up/tinder front, it's all kinda discrete and this does nothing in terms of boosting pre-selection, as other girls don't know I've been ****ing girls from tinder!

I've been seeing girls in the past and been the one to end it when they wanted more, but even though I don't really want more with my main plate now, part of me is tempted to get into a relationship purely to address the situation above.

This sounds bad, but the stigma of 'never had a gf' is quite damaging, or at least in my mind it is, it definitely bothers me anyway. I can't help but think my friends and family would think ill of me.

I want to stress I don't need validating from a girl, but I feel like it would help me with other girls should they see i've actually been in a relationship and am not destined to be FA.

Bit tight to lead this girl on but **** it, red pill and all that.

Any thoughts?

 

[Chickfight]

You want to get a girlfriend just so you can appear preselected and cheat on her? My thoughts are that's pretty dumb. It matters more how many girls want to be your girlfriend than how many you've had. Plus it's pretty sad being in a passionless relationship.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

We've all been there before to some degree when a chick asks about your previous gf and how that relationship went when we didn't technically have a gf. You can always fudge it a little bit and say one of the chicks on tinder that you maybe bang on a regular basis was your gf, but it didn't work out.

Her: Aw, what happened?
You: We were just at different points in our life, wanted different things.
Her: How long were you 2 together?
You: <insert answer here...however long you were banging her>
Her: What sort of things did you want that were different?
You: I'd really rather not drag up these old memories and relive those emotions again. I've moved on. Hey is that a black bra you're wearing?

You get the idea.

 

[Comatozed]

Yea I mean I have no problem fudging it a bit and have been in 'relationships' that lasted 3 months or so.. plus I just say 'I don't like to dwell on the past ' and that works well, makes them wonder and they wanna know if I was the one to end it or if I got hurt and I just refuse to talk about it.

In fact, my refusal to talk about it has worked wonders with one plate. She kept asking and part of me was tempted to tell her, she was saying 'tell me this is what pals do' (after I friendzoned her) but then it twigged in my mind that 'yea that's what friends do I don't wanna be your friend I wanna f you' so I didn't talk about it. Remain a mystery. The power of saying nothing!

But yea, I guess I just feel some kinda social pressure to have been in one, cos yaknow how much girls are sheep and follow the opinions of other girls, plan would be to practise being in a relationship and see how it goes.

For now I will just continue doing as I'm doing, she might not even be as keen on me as I think she is tbh, I'll keep seeing her until she brings up any talks like that and then when she does I'll tell her I need time to think and then decide.

@chickfight - but having a gf to begin will increase the number of girls that want to be your gf longterm. no girl wants the FA reject.