"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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pre-kino=mirroring DJ bible worthy

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Mirroring is an NLP technique which you can use to build instant rapport with another person. In NLP, there's a saying that "people like people who are like themselves". Mirroring allows you to synchronize your energy field with the energy field of another person, whether that person is communicating with you and standing near you, or even if the person is sitting or standing on the opposite side of the room.

Being similar or having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, comfort, being understood, feeling safe, etc.

All of us have been doing this unconsciously - now you can learn to harness the power of mirroring consciously.

Perhaps you've noticed how people who are engaged in an interesting conversation seem to assume the same postures, whether sitting or standing up. When sitting, either side by side or on opposites sides of the table, one leans forward and then the other leans forward as well, one leans backward and then the other leans backward as well, they cross their hands in the same manner, tilt their heads similarly, seem to be having similar side-activities (one lifting up hand to fix her hair, another one lifting up hand to scratch his ear; one person lifting up glass to his mouth, another person following with the similar gesture), etc.

One powerful way to get in sync with another person is through matching that person's breathing pattern - simply observe the person's breathing rhythm and breathe in the same rhythm.

You can mirror the person physically by assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body in a similar fashion to hers. You can follow the same rhythm of the person's movement, but with another part of your body - for example, if a person were tapping with her fingers on the table, you may tap with your foot under the table. If a person scratches her ear, you may fix your hair.

While you're following what the other person's is doing and getting in sync with that person, you are, what's in NLP language called - pacing that person. After you pace her for a while, either through breathing or through physical movements, you may test for a lead - slowly alter your breathing or initiate a movement and notice whether the person is unconsciously following your lead. If not, go back to pacing - otherwise you can lead the person where you'd like her to follow you.


Mix it up do this every once in a while like every 30mins and act surprise when she catches you. I do this alot within 15-20mins of meeting a female it puts a smile on a females face and boom ur in.Do this prior to kino it knock downs that invisible barrier.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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fellas what do u think is it dj bible worthy?
 
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fellas what do u think is it dj bible worthy?
 

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Dude, stop trying so hard to be dh bible worthy. You reek of insecurity by repeatedly asking that.

I've never had much success with mirroring. After trying it for quite some time, I felt that I was being to reactive and not leading and setting the pace. To each his own. For me, it is too reactive.
 

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I've never had much success with mirroring. After trying it for quite some time, I felt that I was being to reactive and not leading and setting the pace. To each his own. For me, it is too reactive.
Yeah, that's Tyler Durden's take, that it's too reactive and the guy should be leading. That makes sense, but I'm not sure how I feel about it. I've thought about it, but I've never gotten around to trying it.

I recall a girl doing this to me before though. I was leaning against the wall with my hand on my hip, and she came up opposite me and put herself in the same position, staring me in the eye with a big smirk on her face. I have to admit I actually got kind of a charge out of it, so it appears to work for women anyway. For guys, I don't know. Some guys seem to swear by it though.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Maybe this works but even if it does it's only one small piece of the puzzle. It's never gonna replace kino or all the other "mainstream" DJ techniques. If the rest of your game is awesome you might benefit from trying this too, but most guys (myself included) need to work on everything else before we confuse ourselves with when to breathe and what arm to rest our chins on.
 

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@atom smasher child please im not insecure stay off my topic if u dont like what im saying people of higher intellect comment only u must b bored
 

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Yea mikey b im which on that I use it to break the stranger wall girls have up when u 1st meet them it like a diving board for me with this techinque
 

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basically in my opinion, anything that you think consciously is piece of sh!t. just because you think you have to mirror her, it doesn't work very well b/c 9 out of 10 times, the conscious thinking will make you nervous.
 

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I didnt know what I was doin because I have been doin this move for years since 5-6th grade and never knew why or how it worked i just knew it made me and her smile
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If this is a tip or technique, why wasn't it posted in the tips forum?
 

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besides, thats all common knowledge anyway. not even close to bible-worthy. There is also no evidence that it even works at all.
 

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horaholic said:
besides, thats all common knowledge anyway. not even close to bible-worthy. There is also no evidence that it even works at all.
There is evidence it works. Check the references in just about any book of David Liebermann, I remember he referred to studies that verified it. However it's just a pain in the a$$ to constantly be thinking about this stuff. Most guys will benefit most from improving on more basic things, while those guys who have their game sorted out won't need this anyway.
 

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Dubh said:
@atom smasher child please im not insecure stay off my topic if u dont like what im saying people of higher intellect comment only u must b bored
Sorry, dude. From now on I'll stick to the lower intellect threads where I belong.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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@ atom smasher im not tryin b rude but you came off as rude and snobby i just thought i would add a very vaulable tip thats worked for me since day 1 of me talking to girls in grade school it was natural and didnt kno i was doin it i just did it and it works thats all man
 
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