I've read over the bible, and I'd personally like to thank everyone who helps with this great site. I have been an AFC all my life, but things are starting to change for the better. I'm wearing my hair nappy. my clothes more relaxed, and you know what? Girls are starting to notice, and I'm feeling pretty good. Unfortunately, a whole bunch of my friends at school are stuck in the 6th grade mindset, and I have to fly solo at school if I hope have any fun around chicks. I do however, have a friend on my soccer team, who's quite ****y and funny. We have a blast together. The women at my private school (with a few minor exceptions) refuse to date classmates, and give head to guys outside of school almost at a whim. I've blown my reputation with my AFC'ness, and it seems like it would be so much easier to start with a clean slate with new people. Anyways, I'm looking for a new outlet for practicing DJ'ing, so would a trip to the mall with my cool friend be good practice? Just real casual flirting, pick-up lines, etc... Hey, a few slaps to the face are worth the experience right? Thanks DJ's.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Practicing
- Thread starter eatme
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ya man. Unfortunately it seems no one really notices until the beginning of the next year. It's like your rep and the way people percieve you doesn't really change until then. But they will notice, just not as much.
Ya man go practice at the mall, it's funny i'm in the same boat as you. my friends WORSHIP girls
:-\
you gotta start hanging around people who are successful, or "cool". AKA the popular kids, find some that are nice and start being friends with them.
good luck man
Ya man go practice at the mall, it's funny i'm in the same boat as you. my friends WORSHIP girls
:-\
you gotta start hanging around people who are successful, or "cool". AKA the popular kids, find some that are nice and start being friends with them.
good luck man
Thanks man! My "friends" are being petty and jealous about my DJ'ing as well. They see me actually making progress with women, and I think they are starting to hate me for it. I'll be dropping most of those *******s ASAP. I've always made women laugh, but I realized I was never sexual enough about it. I'm not a bad looking guy, I just never got ME into their heads. The mall should be fun, gonna wait till after finals though.
VIVAlasVEGASBaby
Senior Don Juan
Don't worry too much about meeting tons of girls at your age. During your sophomore and junior years you'll start to meet a lot more people. Make friends with as many chicks at your school as you can; just because you don't have an interest in them doesn't mean you won't like their hot friends from other schools. I have a bunch of friends on my soccer team that i hang out with and I've met quite a few girls from soccer (tournaments and stuff like that). I take it you're only a freshmen so as you get into your next year you'll meet a lot of new people. My advice would be to make friends with some of the chicks at your school; i would be willing to bet that you'll meet a bunch of other people from other schools that way.
TonyTheTigerOI
Master Don Juan
Amen to meeting girls through soccer. Godbless the sport!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
cheers mate. soccer is the true mans game
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
chicks love soccer...chicks also go to baseball games...