"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Practicing cold approaches in another city

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Hey guys, quick question. I want to practice cold approaches as I've actually never done them...and I'm visiting Buffalo today with the family for shopping. I'm usually left alone and I figured I'd might as well start practicing approaching in a different city where there's pretty much no consequences for getting rejected. Of course there's probably no need for a number close but I'd aim for that anyway since I'd be in a shopping mall.

Any tips? Other than basic stuff written in the DJ bible, is there anything I can do extra considering I don't live there (i.e. going further or being more ridiculous just to see what works?)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Approach every girl you can, but make it subtle so you won't seem like a homeless guy who walks up to everyone. I've experienced that the best method is when you seem like you are walking somewhere but noticed this fascinating girl and wanted to know more about her.
I love doing cold approaches on vacations since you will never have to see them again, and since you are outdoors a lot you can force yourself to approach more.

The problem I see is that the girls you will meet live in a DIFFERENT city. If you are staying there over night try to hook up with them at the spot instead of just getting their number.
 

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Hydrak said:
The problem I see is that the girls you will meet live in a DIFFERENT city. If you are staying there over night try to hook up with them at the spot instead of just getting their number.
I'm actually okay with that. I've never done approaches at all and I want to get accustomed to doing it so that when I get back to Ontario and back into my university town, I'll be more comfortable with it.

Thing is I'll mainly be in malls, and at night since it's a family trip we all basically share one hotel room, so there's no way I'd be able to get away with hooking up with a girl at night. I'd probably do that on a road trip with the boys on another occasion.
 

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Honestly I feel this will be very good for you. you will see that it is not that big of a deal plus the fact you live in another city will actually raise your value to them b/c your time is limited, women play these fairy tale fantasies in their head, of meeting guys....it will also prob make it easier to get a number b/c they see it as less of a threat b/c if u dont see them when u r there u will never call again....give them a spontaneous choice...Id even try escalating just to see what happeneds hey u never know....this will help boost your confidence and u can test the waters to see what works and what doesnt!!!! GOOOD LUCK SIR

Keep Spinning Boyz,
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j0504s said:
Honestly I feel this will be very good for you. you will see that it is not that big of a deal plus the fact you live in another city will actually raise your value to them b/c your time is limited, women play these fairy tale fantasies in their head, of meeting guys....it will also prob make it easier to get a number b/c they see it as less of a threat b/c if u dont see them when u r there u will never call again....give them a spontaneous choice...Id even try escalating just to see what happeneds hey u never know....this will help boost your confidence and u can test the waters to see what works and what doesnt!!!! GOOOD LUCK SIR
Never thought of that...sounds good, thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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