"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PracticeWorks

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Hey guys. I'm a 16 year old who's been having some troubles lately. Before I go into that, I'll tell you a bit about myself. I'm an aspiring musician, so music is my passion. That's my main focus right now. Other than that, I'm about to be a senior in High School. I've known about this site for a while now, and I've finally decided to sign up. I'm glad to be a member and I'm looking forward to the results I'll see. Now, about my issues, my history with girls hasn't been bad in my opinion. I think it's average. Back in middle school, I used to attract a good amount of girls. Never stayed with them too long though. High school now, throughout my years, I've pulled a few. Thing is, they always came to me. I guess I'm a good-looking guy because I always got at-least decent looking women. Not really the ones I thought highly of though. I mean, the good looking girls are okay, but I want the top of the line ones. Also, taking what comes to me isn't really working anymore. For example, this girl hit me up on FB last week, pretty good looking, I get her number, start texting. Everything is going well, then all of a sudden she stops texting me. I'm pretty up-tight about this type of stuff, so I've always had a three strike rule with texting. If she breaks one of my rules three times, I'm never texting her again. So, I hit her up about a week later, no reply. Same thing a week later, no reply. Three strikes, never talking to her again. I don't think thats harsh. I just want to know why she stopped texting me. Anyway, I need to start pursuing women, because as time continues, less and less come to me. However, I've never done this. Hitting girls up on social networking just seems akward to me, but that's my only option since it's the summer time. Any advice on how to solve my problems? ((Sorry this was so long by the way.))
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Paragraphs man. Luckly you spelled correctly so it wasn't too hard to read.
And start by reading the bible. Should get you going. Welcome to SoSuave.
 

PracticeWorks

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Been checking out the bible, reading stuff from there. About to hit up a few girls on FB and Twitter
 

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Wow its like looking in a mirror:
hitting girls up on social networks just seems awkward to me, but it's my only option since its summer time
You (and I) have got to stop this. If there's one thing I've learned, its that you can't build rapport and comfort by any means other than face to face contact. You can however build value - if only perceived - on social networks, but that's beyond my point.

Anyway, assuming you're doing anything other than asking girls out on dates through social media: quit it. It does more harm than good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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