"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"practice" dates

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I just went on this date... Girl was totally not my type. A bit too much of an AFC (what do we call female AFCs anyway? Gotta change that C to something else.) I could've taken things further than just a pleasant night out. Started with slightly unnatural conversation + kino, but quickly got a decent comfortable vibe. I had a few moments for a kiss (a few! you know the girl isn't too interesting when she gives a few!), but decided there was no need to move any further seeing as she just doesn't click nicely with me.

My question to you:
What you guys think of arranging dates that you KNOW aren't going anywhere, and I don't mean sticking to only going out with girls for LTRs ( we aren't always looking for that ;))... I mean, dates that for whatever reason, you really aren't that interested in?

The pros I see are that I got to use it as an a test ground... I tried telling different stories, made sure my body language and kino was good, and scoped out an area of town for future dates.
The cons? Well, you're leading someone on needlessly and it's a bit of a waste of time.

What do you guys think of "practicing?" I want to know your thoughts, sosuave!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Every date is a "practice" date.

Remember one thing, no matter the outcome, sometimes you win sometimes you learn. Once you have enough under your belt, you'll know what to do in most situations with most type of dates.
 

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handle said:
I just went on this date... Girl was totally not my type. A bit too much of an AFC (what do we call female AFCs anyway? Gotta change that C to something else.)
Average Fustrated ****s! :crackup:
 
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