AuthenticAG
Don Juan
Dealing with being a shy kid most of my early life sucked. So handinling this part of my life was very important.
Shyness is not an inborn trait. Its learned and it can be be unlearned with specific steps that require you to take action. These are 10 practical steps to overcome shyness.
1. Eye Contact
Start making eye contact with people. Not staring but locking eyes with people you pass by for a few seconds. Make eye contact with everyone. Especially with the opposite sex. Resist the urge to look away. Do not look down at the ground or at your feet. Be proud of yourself. Look forward and at people who pass you by. Smile.
2. Body Language
Changing your body language is very important. It will do two things. One, it will change how you feel about yourself. Two, it will make change how other people perceive you. Stand tall. Walk proud. Celebrate yourself. First it will probably feel awkward because you are not use to it. But this is important. Changing your body language habits will improve your overall life.
3. Exercise
Exercising is one of the most important aspects when it comes to not only overcoming your shyness, but attaining self-respect, self-confidence and self-esteem. Working out will improve your mind and your body. This continues to be a very valuable aspect in my life.
4. Small Talk
Make small talk with everyone you come in contact with. Old people, young people, guys, girls, everybody. At first you can start small. Initiate a conversation with a cashier, ask them about their day etc. You must be pro-active about this. You ask the questions. If someone starts talking to you, it doesn’t count. You must initiate. Start small and go from there.
5. Dinner or Movie
Be comfortable alone. Go out and eat a dinner at a busy restaurant. Get a table for one. Sit, eat and enjoy yourself.
6. Public Events
Go out alone to a large public event. Great place is a bar but do not drink. Just go and be in a busy environment. If bar is not your place. Find something else where people gather to hang out. Go there and get used to being in a public setting by yourself.
7. Dress to Impress
Dress how you want. Change your wardrobe to something new or wear an accessory that is unique to you. Feel good about yourself.
8. Stop Caring What Others Think
Stop wasting your energy and imagining what others are thinking. What others are thinking of you is none of your business. You should not care one-way or another, that’s their problem not yours. It’s your life. Your world.
9. Being in Uncomfortable Situations
You must become comfortable being uncomfortable. Consistently put yourself in situations where you know you need work. Be it social interactions, decision making or physical. This is important in overcoming shyness.
10. Keep a Journal
Keep a journal. Write down how you feel, what is working for you, what you want to achieve. It’s important to write positive entries. Make sure you write what you are learning from the experiences so you can improve next time.
You must continue improving yourself in all aspects of life. Keep doing these steps until you become comfortable. Then take it to the next level.
Shyness is not an inborn trait. Its learned and it can be be unlearned with specific steps that require you to take action. These are 10 practical steps to overcome shyness.
1. Eye Contact
Start making eye contact with people. Not staring but locking eyes with people you pass by for a few seconds. Make eye contact with everyone. Especially with the opposite sex. Resist the urge to look away. Do not look down at the ground or at your feet. Be proud of yourself. Look forward and at people who pass you by. Smile.
2. Body Language
Changing your body language is very important. It will do two things. One, it will change how you feel about yourself. Two, it will make change how other people perceive you. Stand tall. Walk proud. Celebrate yourself. First it will probably feel awkward because you are not use to it. But this is important. Changing your body language habits will improve your overall life.
3. Exercise
Exercising is one of the most important aspects when it comes to not only overcoming your shyness, but attaining self-respect, self-confidence and self-esteem. Working out will improve your mind and your body. This continues to be a very valuable aspect in my life.
4. Small Talk
Make small talk with everyone you come in contact with. Old people, young people, guys, girls, everybody. At first you can start small. Initiate a conversation with a cashier, ask them about their day etc. You must be pro-active about this. You ask the questions. If someone starts talking to you, it doesn’t count. You must initiate. Start small and go from there.
5. Dinner or Movie
Be comfortable alone. Go out and eat a dinner at a busy restaurant. Get a table for one. Sit, eat and enjoy yourself.
6. Public Events
Go out alone to a large public event. Great place is a bar but do not drink. Just go and be in a busy environment. If bar is not your place. Find something else where people gather to hang out. Go there and get used to being in a public setting by yourself.
7. Dress to Impress
Dress how you want. Change your wardrobe to something new or wear an accessory that is unique to you. Feel good about yourself.
8. Stop Caring What Others Think
Stop wasting your energy and imagining what others are thinking. What others are thinking of you is none of your business. You should not care one-way or another, that’s their problem not yours. It’s your life. Your world.
9. Being in Uncomfortable Situations
You must become comfortable being uncomfortable. Consistently put yourself in situations where you know you need work. Be it social interactions, decision making or physical. This is important in overcoming shyness.
10. Keep a Journal
Keep a journal. Write down how you feel, what is working for you, what you want to achieve. It’s important to write positive entries. Make sure you write what you are learning from the experiences so you can improve next time.
You must continue improving yourself in all aspects of life. Keep doing these steps until you become comfortable. Then take it to the next level.