"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ppl think im asexual because i suck with girls

ohiobohio518

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I'm two years into college and in a frat and haven't hooked up with anybody, mostly because I'm a pansy. Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

I DO have a sex drive. I am very much attracted to the opposite sex. But people keep asking me if I like girls, or if I'm asexual. I guess I don't give off a gay vibe because no one has ever asked me if I am gay.

Have you ever met anyone like this, or were you someone like this yourself? I feel like I'm this way because I just suck with girls. Many girls I know/mutual friends of people I know don't think I'm actually flirting with them because they believe I'm asexual. WTF?

People straight up ask me like, "Why don't you hook up with anybody?" or "Do you ever have crushes?" or "Do you like girls?"

and I have no idea what to say, because the answers are "Cause i suck" "yes " and "yes", respectively. and its just an awkawrd question and it makes me really uncomfroable.

How do I change this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheBaconator

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Other then that your best bet would be to just stop caring what people think. Unless you start going after women they will apparently assume, and there really is no explanation other then you don't approach.
 

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I was asked this question before in H.S. That's because all the girls in my small H.S. were a) in a relationship b) ugly. And I was a huge AFC back then which didn't help.

My problem right now isn't my appearance or lack of skills, it's "where do I find good looking girls without clubbing, partying, or drinking?". It seems like if a man isn't the partying/clubbing type, his chances to practice (and be successful) his game is cut 75%.

I'm not in school, so meeting chicks that way isn't a possibility.

I'm stuck with cold approaches, online dating, or finding some hobby or club.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DonJuan11

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ohiobohio518 said:
Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

Unless you look like Brad, you can't be that picky or else you'll never sleep with a girl.

People straight up ask me like,

"Do you like girls?" If a person asks you this question, you must ask yourself why. If you asked a girl, "do you like boys?", there would be a reason why you thought she didn't.
I don't know dude, either you are doing something fundamentally wrong and giving off a "gay" vibe, girls don't interest you because you watch alot of porn, or you are extremely picky because you look like Brad. I'm guessing its two of the latter

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fruitopiax

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ohiobohio518 said:
I'm two years into college and in a frat and haven't hooked up with anybody, mostly because I'm a pansy. Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

I DO have a sex drive. I am very much attracted to the opposite sex. But people keep asking me if I like girls, or if I'm asexual. I guess I don't give off a gay vibe because no one has ever asked me if I am gay.

Have you ever met anyone like this, or were you someone like this yourself? I feel like I'm this way because I just suck with girls. Many girls I know/mutual friends of people I know don't think I'm actually flirting with them because they believe I'm asexual. WTF?

People straight up ask me like, "Why don't you hook up with anybody?" or "Do you ever have crushes?" or "Do you like girls?"

and I have no idea what to say, because the answers are "Cause i suck" "yes " and "yes", respectively. and its just an awkawrd question and it makes me really uncomfroable.

How do I change this?
Stop thinking that not being obvious with girls or flirting is the right thing. It's NORMAL for a guy to flirt and try to get *****. It's ABNORMAL when you don't. Think of it that way. So you don't lose by being upfront.
 

slaog

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You called yourself a pansy and thats what people are seeing.

You could turn the situation around in a positive way. If somebody asks you are you asexual just tell them definetly not but you've very high standards. Now instead of seeing a pansy who is afraid of women they'll see you in a different way that they now have to meet your standards.
 

Daddy The Pimp

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Dont give a fvck what they say .

And if you wanna get some pvssy , dont get to prove them that you can .

This is the worst thing because you will be attached with outcome and youll come off as a needy fvcker .

So , when you feel like doing it , do some approaches , be MAN , dont be scared to express your sexuality , never reserve your words and your thoughts , always spit them .

First you have to be the MAN than pvssy will come dont worry .
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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