Power struggle

[kk2004]

Guys im in a relationship and to tell ou the truth im power hungry in the sense that i need to know im the one in control, like i mean i let her pick the dates soemtimes and i use her ideas and she uses mine but its like I got to know she listin's to me. Like Im the guy in control and that she knows i wear the pants. when i talk to her this idea is ALWAYS in the back of mind it wont let me be free. Like im always gearing my words and sentences so i come of as the guy who has the power.

Is this okay or normal?

 

[flyinshark]

Well, it's not very good for your mental health, because whenever she may seem to take some of the power from you, you may freak out and become awkward with her, which in turn can hurt your relationship.

If you think u can keep your cool, then i think it's alright. It's good to be the one wearing the pants in the relationship, as your girl will love you more.

 

[belividere]

how old is your relationship? What are you looking for?

 

[spider_007]

just remember; being a control freek, can be a turnoff. It shows, that you are insecure. You DON'T wana try and control her life, BIG TURNOFF. It's ok if she suggests something to do....... What you should be more concerend about is staying in control on a EMOTIONAL LEVEL. It means; doing things you want, not taking any drama from her, not looking for approval from her or anybody else........ If you don't feel like doing something she suggests, don't.