"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Power" move made by Univ. of Chicago males

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http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-u-of-c-mens-groupmay19,0,4707353.story

A group of University of Chicago students think it's time the campus focused more on its men.

A third-year student from Lake Bluff has formed Men in Power, a student organization that promises to help men get ahead professionally. But the group's emergence has been controversial, with some critics charging that its premise is misogynistic.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pua1989 said:
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-u-of-c-mens-groupmay19,0,4707353.story

A group of University of Chicago students think it's time the campus focused more on its men.

A third-year student from Lake Bluff has formed Men in Power, a student organization that promises to help men get ahead professionally. But the group's emergence has been controversial, with some critics charging that its premise is misogynistic.

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lol.. they gona have to hire prostitutes... cause females wont have anyone trying to resist their ***** power..
 

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pua1989 said:
But the group's emergence has been controversial, with some critics charging that its premise is misogynistic.
More often than not men already have the power professionally. Depends on the situation though.

I think alot of mans' problems are best dealt with internally rather than challenging the social power structure. Problems with women, problems with jobs, problems with school are often our own making and our own lack of balls.

Except for divorce and custody of course. That's some shameful ****e right there.
 

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I hope they are misogynistic. That word is now unjustly equated with words like "torture" and "genocide" in our society.
 

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Check out the comments: one woman called herself "Mom" claims: "Yeah women may earn more degrees, but they still make LESS money for the same position.
Sounds like insecure men... "
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Univ of Chicago is fvcking crap.
 

I'm in the Mood

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SoSuave to me seems very similar to this Men in Power thing.
We have a slightly different focus than professional success, but it all revolves around the male mind.
Yall should know by now, self improvement is one of the most amazing things you can do with your life.

I applaud Men in Power for showing male self-advocacy, the willingness to help men in need and the desire to succeed...man this is some underrated shyt!

But realize...if MiP is misogynistic, then feminism must be misandry.

Damn it, sexist discrimination is total nonsense.
 

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A well overdue step in the right direction. Wasnt at all surprised either to see the female shaming tactics present in the comments below ("sounds like they all cant get a girlfriend" et el). Women really do struggle in general to form an intelligent debate when they're extremely shakey "facts" and ideology is thrown into question.
 

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I think alot of mans' problems are best dealt with internally rather than challenging the social power structure. Problems with women, problems with jobs, problems with school are often our own making and our own lack of balls.
i think it's more than that,
i think it's some mens fear of offending or angering woman.

you look at guys who are successful with woman and life in general,
they don't care if they anger/offend someone.

their actions and what they say are'nt limited to what won't offend/anger someone.

jocca said:
A well overdue step in the right direction. Wasnt at all surprised either to see the female shaming tactics present in the comments below ("sounds like they all cant get a girlfriend" et el). Women really do struggle in general to form an intelligent debate when they're extremely shakey "facts" and ideology is thrown into question.
the worst thing about it is people take shaming to heart,
and either hide in their shells like a bunch of turtles or start defending themselves.

shaming is nothing but small insults made by even smaller people.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Reminds me of me of my stupid deputy-head of 6th form (college), who is a feminist. She tried to set up a feminist society in her old school, but was told that the school would then have to allow a male 'misogynist' society to represent both 'view points'. Faced with having to 'allow' misogynist to have a platform, she abandoned her idea.

School 1 - Stupid feminist 0

Good on these guys for standing up for themselves and not backing down to their critics.
 

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Phenomenal One said:
i think it's more than that,
i think it's some mens fear of offending or angering woman.

you look at guys who are successful with woman and life in general,
they don't care if they anger/offend someone.

their actions and what they say are'nt limited to what won't offend/anger someone.
I think it's the fear of being judged.
If somebody calls you out on something, and you defend yourself, you're protecting your self-judgement. When you defend yourself, you're doing so because you think the person calling you out is judging you and you're afraid of them getting a negative image of you in their mind.

To me, this raises the question: how do you deal with frustration?
One example that women commonly use is ASD, which is very tactical because it's also an SSI, communicating that they're not "easy" and not sluts.

What can men do to defend themselves though?
I'm not exactly sure how, but I know that it has something to do with power.
Anger, frustration and violence are not positive defenses. Power and influence are.
 
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