"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Power is sexy

Luveno

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The most important thing a guy can do to attract females is to live congruently. Have undying ambition to obtain power, but of course do not hurt strangers or the innocent in the process. To women, power is sexy.

In the world of women, good looks are power. The best looking girls can sail through life unfettered, while the average and ugly must work their asses off to get even a fraction of what the attractive girls get. Thus, when a guy is good looking, women subconciously assume he is more powerful.

Money is the greatest form of power a man can have. It gives the woman the right to brag to her friends about the rich guy she bagged. It instills a sense of security in the woman. However, money also invites many smiling devils, so one must be careful.

Success is not equal to money, but is only useful if ones field is impressive. Being the most successful vacuum cleaner salesman will not add to your value. Being the most successful prosecutor will. Most successful Counterstrike tournament master: no. Most successful biomechanical researcher: yes. Success at ones field equals influence, which is power.

Confidence is probably the dealbreaker for most men. No matter how one looks, no matter how much he owns, or how good he is at what he does, if he doesn't portray the fact that he knows it and is proud of it, he is as good as dirt. Confidence is like an advertisement. Sulking and whining and being meek is like Pepsi putting a billboard in Times Square that says "This stuff will make you fat and give you diabetes! Drink up!". Self-depreciation is weakness. Pride is power.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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diplomatic_lies

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I can't agree totally. Yes, a lawyer is powerful, but he's also boring. Rich men aren't the epitome of sexual prowess. For example, how many women get hot when you mention Bill Gates? Apart from gold-diggers, probably not a lot.

Think about our society's sex symbols: Arnold Swarznegger, Bill Clinton, George Clooney, Leonardo di Caprio. They're not particularly rich (compared with Bill Gates), but they're very charismatic.

Mind you, I'm speaking from the perspective of a younger man (most women I date are early 20s). So it may be different for old people.
 

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deprication.
 

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Men are judged on their social status, the way women are judged on their looks. The beauty of it is that men can come across as a 'high status male' (as some gurus put it) with very little 'money'.

Sure, driving up in a Porsche with a pocket full of money will get any girls attention, but it doesn't mean she'll 'respect' you. Sugar Daddy's aren't respected, their money is. Take the money away and what do you have left? A middle-aged fat a** who couldn't get laid if his life depended on it.

Status and power is how you 'project' yourself to the rest of the world, money is just a 'tool' guys use (because they are very insecure) to try and get that point across. I've known guys with 'average' income try to give away numbers because they have to many girls to juggle.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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blueguy

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Luveno said:
Money is the greatest form of power a man can have.
This is incredibly far from the truth. Women can't see your bank account. What they can see is the way you look and act. And even if they can see your car or house, an increased dating pool from an increased social status (ability to date all those in a social class equal to or lower than yours... that is all money can work in your favor) does not translate to attraction.
 
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