"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I have been talking to this HB through text. She is a family friends daughter and I have known her since little but we see each other once a year(ish). 



She got my number from my sister and she initiated texting about half a year ago. I had a breakup going and I wasn't that interested in her back then. 

But recently the conversations have gone pretty flirty and and have had sexual tension going (thank you ****y&funny) We have been talking about how we should meet up and get drunk. She said that she is good to party with etc. This HB lives about thirty minutes away.


 I arranged that she would come to my place with some alcoholic beverages next weekend, but because my parents and my sister cancelled their trip (Yes i live with my parents) we wouldn't have privacy. So my plan went wrong. Plan was to get a bit drunk have fun and escalate towards secs. She lives with her parents too but she said they will not be home from June to August (she talked about how we could party in that time) and I dont know when my parents will be out of town next time. 


So here are some questions 

1.How I will play this logistically? I mean also how to hit her up if I am able to take her to my place. And how not to be wrapped around her little finger. I mean that she can hit me up anytime she wants for "partying" if her place is free.


2.How can I keep her interested? ( I try to not text her too much. Sometimes I take days to respond and and stop responding to her if it gets boring and hit her up after several weeks.)

3. I dont want to end up as an orbiter (any tips how to avoid?) I have a FWB thing going on and I am about to approach a few girls when get a chance so this is not my only option, I just want try out different girls.


The paragraphing might suck but I wrote this on phone so bare with me. I will try to edit it when I get to the computer. My native language is not english so there might be some mistakes. If you need details I am willing to answer. 


May God bless you all
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Here is the paragraphed version:

Father Joseph said:
So I have been talking to this HB through text. She is a family friends daughter and I have known her since little but we see each other once a year(ish).






She got my number from my sister and she initiated texting about half a year ago. I had a breakup going and I wasn't that interested in her back then. 

But recently the conversations have gone pretty flirty and and have had sexual tension going (thank you ****y&funny) We have been talking about how we should meet up and get drunk. She said that she is good to party with etc. This HB lives about thirty minutes away.


 I arranged that she would come to my place with some alcoholic beverages next weekend, but because my parents and my sister cancelled their trip (Yes i live with my parents) we wouldn't have privacy. So my plan went wrong. Plan was to get a bit drunk have fun and escalate towards secs.



She lives with her parents too but she said they will not be home from June to August (she talked about how we could party in that time) and I dont know when my parents will be out of town next time. 


So here are some questions 



1.How I will play this logistically? I mean also how to hit her up if I am able to take her to my place. And how not to be wrapped around her little finger. I mean that she can hit me up anytime she wants for "partying" if her place is free.




2.How can I keep her interested? ( I try to not text her too much. Sometimes I take days to respond and and stop responding to her if it gets boring and hit her up after several weeks.)




3. I dont want to end up as an orbiter (any tips how to avoid?) I have a FWB thing going on and I am about to approach a few girls when get a chance so this is not my only option, I just want try out different girls.





Here is the paragraphed version. My native language is not english so there might be some mistakes. If you need details I am willing to answer and I'd like advice soon as possible. 


May God bless you all
 
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Don Juans I need your advice on this. Help a brother out thats why we are here right? ;)
 

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No one has responded to your thread because your question is incredibly wack. Rex suggests that you start an account at www.loveshack.org and post your question there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maximus Rex said:
No one has responded to your thread because your question is incredibly wack. Rex suggests that you start an account at www.loveshack.org and post your question there.
Ok I'll think about it. But could you be more specific on what is wrong in my thread?
 

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Read Your Own Thread

Father Joseph said:
Ok I'll think about it. But could you be more specific on what is wrong in my thread?
Read your own thread until you figure it out.
 
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