"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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potential but no initiative

tenzo

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Hey everybody,

I'll get to the subject right away, I know most of you can connect with me on this one.

well the problem isn't about doing drugs or drinking or anything self-destructive. But from the last year I'm feeling so numb and unproductive. I have this feeling that I'm destined for great things. I know most you has it but I think I have the potential. But it's just so strong, I can't evade it. Lately it feels that my life is passing before my eyes and I just can't do anything to give it some meaning or value.

I don't really have any hobbies or passions to pursue. Maybe it's just routine that is draining me out. But in my country here there's nothing you can do to avoid routine. In a small country with the same places there's nothing you can do about it. And I can't move until I'm at least 18. so that's 3 years of my life wasted.

but what I really would like to do is to start a youth non-profit organization, it's like one of the things I wan't to do before I die. I even had it all figured out like the organization's goals, name and everything that has to do with it. But I just don't have enough confidence and initiative to just run with it.

any advice would be greatly appreciated, also advices in the fields of confidence, public speaking and eliminating the fear of being judged

thanks,
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SamePendo

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Originally posted by tenzo


I don't really have any hobbies or passions to pursue.

but what I really would like to do is to start a youth non-profit organization, it's like one of the things I wan't to do before I die.
I'd advice you to learn all you can. Read read read. On everything you can. Even if it's not relating to your goal. Study about cars, law, great minds in history and present, buissiness. And set a goal for those 3 years.

Stop masturbating, and do something each day. Make your bead, water the plants, whatever, do an ab workout.. just do something each day that is productive. Oh and talk to lots and lots of women, do the bootcamp.
 

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I know that reading is very important in many ways, but what does reading have to do with my goal exactly?
 

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Originally posted by tenzo
I know that reading is very important in many ways, but what does reading have to do with my goal exactly?
My mother tells me this all the time..."The less you do, the less you will want to do"...and I understand fully cause to get up sometimes and do stuff is a battle...
 
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