"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Pot belly woes

Sun Tzu

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Ok, men, I've got a problem with a pot-belly that just won't go away. I'm actually naturally extremely skinny, but overweight now (this occured from taking medication for my stomach for many years).

All the excess weight shows in my gut and a little in my face. The rest of my body stays skinny.

I notice when I do situps/crunches that these excersizes do little for reducing the fat on my belly. It also seems that no matter how I reduce my calories the belly just won't go down very much (though it does reduce somewhat).

Are there any specific techniques/supplements/diets that are known to reduce the gut? I'd appreciate any advice on that.

FWIW, I'm in my 40's which probably makes it harder, and I do suffer from Colitis which I suspect is part of the problem. My swollen stomach is kind of weird because I'm actually so naturally skinny that I have no butt at all (picture Hank Hill but with some upper body muscles and cooler hair).

Thanks for any input, guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warboss Alex

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Never to old to get rid of a gut - search for fat loss in this forum and should be well away.

As an aside, cut out dairy completely for a while and see if your gut is less bloated. Every little helps.
 

Throttle

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You cannot "spot reduce" fat. In your case, your genetics pile it onto your gut and a bit onto your face, not an uncommon situation for guys.

The only way to change this is to reduce your body fat percentage (bf%), which works best when you add muscle & take off fat at the same time. If you're in your 40s, I suspect you've adjusted mentally to having less lean muscle mass than when you were younger, but there's no reason to accept this. There's lots of relevant (and mostly helpful) advice in this forum for adding muscle & reducing fat. For you it may be as simple as upping your physical activity level by 20-30 minutes day to counter a slowing metabolism.

At the same time, be careful with the advice dished out around here -- not many of us have something as serious as colitis to worry about...
 

Sun Tzu

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Thanks, Guys.

Your info pointed me in the right direction. I think Throttle is right that my metabolism has slowed and that increased activity will turn the tide.

Now that I think of it, I started gaining weight a few years ago when I went into business for myself (computer repair). I went from a life of carrying a heavy toolbag all over several counties to rolling a mouse around and tapping keys on a keyboard. Hence, the weight gain.

I'll look into everyone's suggestions and put together a plan. Thanks again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Heretolearn

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Hi,

You are approaching this in the correct manner.

First understand what you want to do in your mind then make the necessary steps to complete this.

Understand this is more than your belly but your overall health and fitness. You belly only shows some of the time, your health and fitness shows in everything that you do!

I recommend examining your lifestyle and schedule and finding fun ways to increase your activity. Start slowly and build up. Eg. I work at an office so I ride to and from work to ensure some activity per day.

I strongly suggest finding activities which instill a wonderful lifestyle. Eg. martial arts, yoga, dancing etc. This way you are not just exercising but are actually doing something productive with numerous side benefits, especially your stomach.

All the best!
 
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