"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When a girl you've seen several times but hasn't really waved at you and doesn't really notice you, or know you but has seen you before.. and then a (bit new) guy comes and then a week later (i don't know what happened or how), the girl sees him behind her and waves at her.. what would it mean?

Make a list.

- She might've known him before.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Having 969 posts or 970 means i posted alot.

I meant..

Let's say you have seen a girl, you've seen her several times she has probaly seen you. You haven't talked to her and she hasn't. So we haven't talked to each other. Let's say there was a new guy who came (like a new classmate), then a week later you see the girl waving at him. Would it show that the new guy did something or the girl knew the guy before?
 
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Does it matter? If you're interested in her, and it seems like you are, then just go for her. If shes with that other guy, you'll find out soon enough. So stop wasting time.
 
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dumbass this happened a year ago and it just came to my head
 
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so I'm a dumbass for not knowing what you didnt include in the post?
And if it happened a year ago, whats it matter now? But since you are dying to know, all you can tell from that is that either she's had some sort of acquaintence with him or shes being friendly to the new kid and trying to make him feel welcome.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i called you a dumbass because you told me to stop wasting time trying to go for her and i didn't say i liked a girl.

don't take the word dumbass as an offending thing because i wasn't trying to offend you, i was a bit pissed before.

that was a good one about her being nice to her because he's new.
 
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I would take it as he's trying to make friends. And he has balls.
 
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