"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Put Your Age in Your Profile

Edited because half of you are not even reading the post and are just replying with your age:

The whole point is to put your age IN YOUR PROFILE, where others can see it. Should you decide to do it, your age should show to the left of yoru posts.

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It is very important that you post your age in your public profile, for the sake of effective communication.

When someone asks a question here, the answer is going to be very different to a 20 year old than it would be to a 50 year old. I find that half the time I'm asking, "How old are you? before I can even start to address any particular issue. Naturally, this is because life experience has to be taken into account, not to mention the social climate of peers at various stages of life.

Posting your age is NOT mandatory, but highly advisable. It just makes sense on a site like this that deals so heavily with social interactions.

How to do it: In the forum heading, you will see links like "User CP, FAQ, Members List, etc." Just click "User CP" (stands for Control Panel) and you will see where you can put your age in.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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He meant in your profile not in this thread, did you bother to read at least his first line?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Make it a 20
 

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Who Dares Win said:
He meant in your profile not in this thread, did you bother to read at least his first line?
:up:
 

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Actually I did get that and it already is but I felt like posting anyway so I did
 

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San Jose California said:
why don't you just make a poll
Your age should be a permanent fixture in your profile. No one will remember poll results.

As a reminder, posting age is NOT mandatory. If anyone has a real reason not to post their age that's perfectly fine. It oviously helps a lot in communicating effectively.

Now if I can just get 5string to take down his "100 years old" and put in his real age, which is 85.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Eternal_water said:
Actually I did get that and it already is but I felt like posting anyway so I did
Your age isn't on your profile...
 

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Eternal_water said:
Actually I did get that and it already is but I felt like posting anyway so I did
well then add your age to your profile then lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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bigbird090 said:
Thanks, but put it in your public profile where it can be seen by the readers of your posts.

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Eternal_water said:
now who isn't reading sentences properly
How long this comedy has to go? does it seem too hard for you to PUT YOUR AGE on YOUR PROFILE so other users see with who they are talking with.

If you put in that task half of the enrgy you put in bvllsh1tting here Im sure it will do.
 

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wow there no need to shout, If you actually read back through you will realise that my age IS in my profile and it has been since before this bleeding article.

I will repeat that as the message appears not to be sinking in.

My age is in my profile and it has been the whole time
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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