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So i met this girl a few years back when travelling, we hung out alot and we have kept in contact since (we were both in relationships at the time.)

I moved to her area quite recently so hit her up a few weeks prior to my arrival letting her know. A bunch of text game and flirting ensued.
When i arrived i tried to make plans twice and she said that she had work, so i i left it to her, she contacted me a few days later and we made a plan.
We met up in a bar/club scene, she ordered alot of shots ( I get the feeling she isnt the most socially comfortable), we end up at my place having hours of mad sex.
Next morning she leaves before i wake and texts me she had work.
Next day we text a little, i tease her about getting me drunk etc etc.
Three days pass and i ask about her work schedule, she replies saying she has work every day for the next ten days but her schedule will be less intense after then. I told her she could send me a text when she figures it out and maybe we could meet up.

A week has passed.

Basically im interested in what your guys post sex game/strategy/approach is.
Do i try to contact her again? or just wait for her (to me her work excuse = 9 in 10 times she has lost interest)

I have had varying results with texting frequently after sex to almost no contact at all.

I would like to see this girl a few more times more at least. (She is hb7i feel she has self esteem issues and may be shy or something)

Thoughts will be greatly Appreciated
 

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Some doctor cut me when I was a baby. I call that, mutilation.
 

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Reply withdrawn, mis-read post.
 

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Give it a week then text her to meet up again.
The key is to not bring up sleeping together at all, let her.

If you meet up with her, repeat the process you did, that lead her to sleeping with you.

If she flakes, text her saying let me know when your free, since you said she works alot.

The onus is on her, either way, it shouldn't bother you. You've already been laid.
 

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maybe she is really busy and she will get back to you when her work is done.

or may be she just wanted a fling with the guy she men for her fantasies
 

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Read the chapter "Beware the After Effects" (on youtube also) from Art of Seduction.

After you seduce a person those good feelings they had for you suddenly change to distrust and lassitude. They must be re-seduced.

Remember, she has other men who she has feelings for and you need to give her time to see if her feelings for you can eclipse theirs.

 

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Just forget about her and date other girls.
 

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Never understand how you guys meet, date, invite a good looking girl back to your place and have sex with her in 18 seconds, and then you get all confused and slightly nervous about what to do when she doesn't respond for a 2nd date.

It's like you are James Bond for the first date, and crumble into an AFC for the 2nd because you had sex. Guess sex with a good looking girl is that powerful for a guy. o_O
 

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Thanks for the replies !

Never understand how you guys meet, date, invite a good looking girl back to your place and have sex with her in 18 seconds, and then you get all confused and slightly nervous about what to do when she doesn't respond for a 2nd date.

It's like you are James Bond for the first date, and crumble into an AFC for the 2nd because you had sex. Guess sex with a good looking girl is that powerful for a guy. o_O
I may be a culprit of this, but im not sure how my original post leads to this, im just interested in how to approach it so they dont always disappear. Im also unsure about what your advice is here, how do you approach this that they always come back for more ?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Just forget about her and date other girls.
This is a distraction ? I have had too many girls just (seemingly) wanting once offs than i would like, Im looking to improve on this. i have other options but it doesn't change my interest level ?
 

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Read the chapterfrom Art of Seduction.

After you seduce a person those good feelings they had for you suddenly change to distrust and lassitude. They must be re-seduced.

Remember, she has other men who she has feelings for and you need to give her time to see if her feelings for you can eclipse theirs.
Thanks for this this is really interesting, my issue though is that i often dont have opportunity for re-seduction .
 

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Give it a week then text her to meet up again.
The key is to not bring up sleeping together at all, let her.

If you meet up with her, repeat the process you did, that lead her to sleeping with you.

If she flakes, text her saying let me know when your free, since you said she works alot.

The onus is on her, either way, it shouldn't bother you. You've already been laid.
I am not sure where i have read this advice before, is this from personal experience aswell ?
 

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Oh, you mean "after sex".

Well since I don't have sex, I guess, I'm not really qualified to comment.
 
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