"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Has any of you felt this?

I'm talking about a rush of hormones (Oxytoxin?) during tha act and a feeling of sadness and loneliness when their effect tapers of.

This weekend I met a woman at a party and ended up having sex in her apartment. Once in the night and yet again in the morning. Really good sex too. We cuddled a lot and she was very affectionate right up until the time I left.

Felt a rush first but the following days I have been kinda down. This always seem to happen after casual sex and it remains for three or four days. Maybe I'm extra sensitive to these hormones?

Anyone else?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Generally ONS's are just that, a quick high and then a let down as the buyers remorse and sluttiness fear factor starts to creep in with the girl. I'm getting off topic buy yeah, I'd say withhold sex for a bit if you want something more lasting.
 

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Any reason why you didn't stay in touch for another go?
 

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I cant ever recall feeling "good" about myself after a ONS...and I've had plenty of them. Of course you get the temporary feeling of victory, but then the reality sets in that you just put your pen-is in someone you dont even know. Scary? Should be.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've never had meaningless sex.

I meant to ƒuck every girl I banged.
 

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I'm not a fan of ONSs. If I'm going to do it once then I'll happily do it again. I always leave that option open, but I do make it clear that "this is JUST SEX", even before the act. A lot of the time that puts a stop to any repeat performances. Sadly, most girls don't like to be fvck toys. But I don't like relationships. So I end up having a lot of ONSs. I still enjoy them, but the post-ONS blues don't really hit me because it can take some time before I even know it's a ONS.

The way you described it, no reason that has to be just a ONS, if you like her.
 

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Yes, I actually feel sad/down after a ONS. As silly as it sounds, I don't feel better until I call a buddy and say "Hey this chick just left my place."

I probably get a little bit attached to the chick and can feel down for a day or so. Plus it's a letdown that your exciting night is over.

So why do I still like ONS?

1. The thrill of the hunt.
2. The variety.
3. The bragging rights.
4. Spontaneous s$x.
 

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SwedishDJ said:
Has any of you felt this?

I'm talking about a rush of hormones (Oxytoxin?) during tha act and a feeling of sadness and loneliness when their effect tapers of.

This weekend I met a woman at a party and ended up having sex in her apartment. Once in the night and yet again in the morning. Really good sex too. We cuddled a lot and she was very affectionate right up until the time I left.

Felt a rush first but the following days I have been kinda down. This always seem to happen after casual sex and it remains for three or four days. Maybe I'm extra sensitive to these hormones?

Anyone else?
You were the ONS, subconciously you got attached to her because YOU have a void, unless i missed something in your post didnt you just wanna bang this broad for one night then continue your life as usual after you blew your load ?
 

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georgie24 said:
You were the ONS, subconciously you got attached to her because YOU have a void, unless i missed something in your post didnt you just wanna bang this broad for one night then continue your life as usual after you blew your load ?
I didn't think at all. The events just unfolded.

Anyway, interesting that at least some others experience the same hormonal surge as I do. Because it's all hormonal. It has nothing to do about the girl or how attracted I am to her.

Anyway...sex was good. I want good sex.
So today I picked up the phone, and we'll meet again this weekend. :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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