"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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zinc64

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Have been talking to this Thai chick 7.5/10......met on an internet dating site.

I met her and two of her frinds for a first date/meeting yesterday at a Thai resturaunt out of town. I immediately had them all laughing and was making physical contact with her hittign her shoulder and she was reciporcating. We then all ate ice cream together...we all ate out of the same bowls. She the asked me if I had any later plans...I said not for now and they had me tag along with them to see alice and wonderland...boring movie. Her friends moved to the front of the theatre and let mer and her sit alone. I toched her kneee....was it lot'/s of people on both our sides and then we left and all went ot the parking lot where both of our cars were parked. I asked her is she would like to do somehting next weekend and she said maybe then I reache dout for a slightly awkward hug...Thai people are hestitant to touch in public. Said goodbye to all and left. Is she playing hard to get or should I just wait until she contact me?

Any advice is appreciated.

Oh, I had her laughing quite a bit and negged her plenty...called her a midget and lazy while laughing and saying I was teasing. Covo was good not great. Frends around made it harder to get deep. Maybe a good thing.,
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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thecurtainfalls

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It sounds like you did fine. I wouldn't wait for her to contact you, I'm a big proponent of being the initiator as a man.

I'd give her a call on Thursday and try to set something up with just the two of you at night and aim for at least a kiss close.
 

zinc64

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Well, it seems like she would have said yeah call me. Maybe she just wants to pose a challenge. Why wait until Thursday?
 

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Also, at end of date, asked her if she would teach me how to cook Thai food and she laughed and said maybe I'm not a great teacher. Another up in the air response.
 

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I think you're over-analyzing this more than a little bit. Just chill man. You want to wait a bit before calling because you're a busy guy that has more going on than just sitting around wondering what this girl thinks of you, and you don't want to come on too strong right away, eliminating your mystery... right?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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