"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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[Post 2000] - My respects to a short list of posters (READ!)

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Yeah, I just noticed my post count. It's 1999 right now. Whew! I don't know what to say. I'll become the 48th person to hit 2000 posts on this forum, and oddly enough, SS.com has went though 23231 users, one more and it'll be symmetrical...oh, never mind, its 23233 now. Haha.:woo:

Really, post count is equal to the time spent here, whether in years, months, weeks...and I guess I'm part of the new trend. Shezz, spider_007 (although he stopped posting, changed names a long time ago), and myself. We are the 2005 top posters.

My posts are no different from yours, or anyone elses, but what we must all look for, is the continued display of knowing what you're doing. I'm not a dating guru, or even a expert. I know a few things, but not everything. No one knows everything, and they should be cut down to reality if they think so. But if there's a post out there that makes so much sense that it's stupid to think otherwise, well damn, give him a pat on the back and a reputation point.

Here's a list of what I think about just a few of the people on this board.

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I shook my head when Skipmylouy challenged Francisco's dating experience. He knows his stuff, and I like the fact that he has respect in how he types. You've been here for a while, you're like a dad to me, don't leave anytime soon! :whistle:

Wyldfire, I also have great respect for you. You've been though a lot, and unfortunely, a lot of the single-minded blockheads here can't understand that. You being one of the few girls on the forum, I've always wanted to ask, why you have remained here all this time? Whatever your answer is, I love you (in that platonic way). :)

Desinova, you and Paradox, I like you both, You both use your moderating powers fairly and correctly, and Des, you always offer great advice. Good job!

Shezz, (o.a.k.a. The_Shezzler) you're my United Kingdom twin. I wish I could sarge with you, I'd learn a lot! Kudos to your material!

frivolousz21, you are a poster worth of a mention. You also post great advice.

backbreaker, I love your business threads. Keep them coming!

Jariel..I wish you didn't leave, you had some good stuff.

~ªêQµïTª$~, I never see you post anymore, but I know you turn out quality :D

STR8UP, you insipred me to become a real estate investor. :D

That's it for the 2000+ club, but I also want to highlight some of the better guys that are working up!

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1000+ Club.

Warboss, you're pro, I like you ^_^

Paradox, you got good moderator skills!

The Bad Ass Canadian, I loved your older posts. Start posting stuff again!!

Rollo, you're one of the members here I respect the most. You write the most down-to-earth stuff, and you have no end to your knowledge :D

(I find this amusing -> Anti-Dump, Last Visit -> 12-31-1969)

AC/DC, you're another great poster, and you just kinda disappeared. :(.

ethnomethodologist, you're gone now, or your under yet another name, but I remember you as Boner the Stoner. You were a great guy to talk to.

A-Unit, you post some insightful stuff in AE, and it's very interesting to read. :woo:

and..I'll finish with

Tomatoes, you wrote some deadly articles! Rock on brother! :rockon:

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Of course, that's just the people I picked out, but there are hundreds of other noteworthy posters that know their stuff. Write it up, fire up those FRs/Experience stories, and most of all...give and return respect.:woo:

Oh, and Sarge On!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i think u forgot someone...i forgive u, dont worry bout it
 

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Killa-Pete hog is a pretty badass too. Anyways, spreading the love Docs, I like that :up:.
 

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pff what about me// ugghhh talk to the hand now on...
 

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lol, Killa posts a lot of stuff. sexy, I'll eat your hand!! You're all good too. As I said, I can't mention everyone!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You forgot me!
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Man, the day I hit 2k on ss.com, I'm going to take a long ass break.
 

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Cent, you're 31 posts away. lol. Where you headed for vacation? You have some crazy stories, such as that evil chick that tried to screw you over and stuff...that was a hell of a story. What turned out from that?

Ace Of Flames. Just for the sake of it, I just mentioned your name *does cartwheels!!*
 

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Jariel..I wish you didn't leave, you had some good stuff.
Thanks man. I'm still checking in now and then, finding a bit of motivation when needed. :)

Congrats on the 2000 posts and welcome to this very elite club! :) Thanks for your valuable input on these forums. I have a lot of respect for your posts and hope you keep them coming!
 

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I've always found BrotherAP's and MrRuckus's posts to be very spot on and well written. They posess true Don Juan mindset and I'm very inspired and enlightened by their wisdom and knowledge :)

Other than that..the list is good.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Centaurion said:
Man, the day I hit 2k on ss.com, I'm going to take a long ass break.
That's what I thought at 2k. Now rolling up on 4k I'm kinda scared :(
 

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lol, if you go on a break Vincent, all hell would break loose, you know that right? :rolleyes:

Thanks man. I'm still checking in now and then, finding a bit of motivation when needed.

Congrats on the 2000 posts and welcome to this very elite club! Thanks for your valuable input on these forums. I have a lot of respect for your posts and hope you keep them coming!
Ohh, you are still here. Spot on :D

I've always found BrotherAP's and MrRuckus's posts to be very spot on and well written. They posess true Don Juan mindset and I'm very inspired and enlightened by their wisdom and knowledge
I like BrotherAP, I think we hit our heads at some point in time.
 

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Docs said:
Ace Of Flames. Just for the sake of it, I just mentioned your name *does cartwheels!!*
Sweet. *feels like he matters*

If it means anything, which I doubt it does.... I'm on the first page of the top rep'd people.... so maybe I have like a quiet respect?

Hehehe.... I need to stop fooling myself.
 

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I've always found BrotherAP's and MrRuckus's posts to be very spot on and well written.

I always just figured I was a loud mouthed idiot.

Docs said:
I like BrotherAP, I think we hit our heads at some point in time.
See, Doc knows. :rock:
 

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The problem with reputation....

Le Parisien is higher then you, he's old, I haven't seen a single post by him.
WestCoaster, gone, again, never seen a post
Microphone Fiend, Bjerte..same way.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Docs said:
Here's a list of what I think about just a few of the people on this board.

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I shook my head when Skipmylouy challenged Francisco's dating experience. He knows his stuff, and I like the fact that he has respect in how he types. You've been here for a while, you're like a dad to me, don't leave anytime soon! :whistle:

Wyldfire, I also have great respect for you. You've been though a lot, and unfortunely, a lot of the single-minded blockheads here can't understand that. You being one of the few girls on the forum, I've always wanted to ask, why you have remained here all this time? Whatever your answer is, I love you (in that platonic way). :)

Desinova, you and Paradox, I like you both, You both use your moderating powers fairly and correctly, and Des, you always offer great advice. Good job!

Shezz, (o.a.k.a. The_Shezzler) you're my United Kingdom twin. I wish I could sarge with you, I'd learn a lot! Kudos to your material!

frivolousz21, you are a poster worth of a mention. You also post great advice.

backbreaker, I love your business threads. Keep them coming!

Jariel..I wish you didn't leave, you had some good stuff.

~ªêQµïTª$~, I never see you post anymore, but I know you turn out quality :D

STR8UP, you insipred me to become a real estate investor. :D

That's it for the 2000+ club, but I also want to highlight some of the better guys that are working up!

---

1000+ Club.

Warboss, you're pro, I like you ^_^

Paradox, you got good moderator skills!

The Bad Ass Canadian, I loved your older posts. Start posting stuff again!!

Rollo, you're one of the members here I respect the most. You write the most down-to-earth stuff, and you have no end to your knowledge :D

(I find this amusing -> Anti-Dump, Last Visit -> 12-31-1969)

AC/DC, you're another great poster, and you just kinda disappeared. :(.

ethnomethodologist, you're gone now, or your under yet another name, but I remember you as Boner the Stoner. You were a great guy to talk to.

A-Unit, you post some insightful stuff in AE, and it's very interesting to read. :woo:

and..I'll finish with

Tomatoes, you wrote some deadly articles! Rock on brother! :rockon:

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Of course, that's just the people I picked out, but there are hundreds of other noteworthy posters that know their stuff. Write it up, fire up those FRs/Experience stories, and most of all...give and return respect.:woo:

Oh, and Sarge On!
RIP
 

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lol, if you go on a break Vincent, all hell would break loose, you know that right? :rolleyes:
Maybe I should just leave for a while so people realize how torn up this place gets without moderators :trouble:
 

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I want to be a mod :D, a lot of threads need to be moved, merged, and I got the time.
-of course, asking = no touchy :sad:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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