"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I gotta tell ya,... im more shocked than angry. I have never ever been flaked on like i just did tonight,... ever!. Lets rewind a bit and get the story together so you can understand this massive flake.

about a week ago this chick and i were talkin and i asked her out. Nothing big just a chill night out. she accepts. so i go about 3 days without speaking to her and the following week, 3 days before she initiates a convo by text, "So when are we goin out?" and i tell her i will let her know. the following day i give her the time and date and she agrees, but not just agrees to it, we talk about all the details of me picking her up. so,... the very same day we are to hang out,... she texts me in the morning out of no where with a "were still on for tonight?" and i reply, "yeah we are, why you might not be able to make it?" she replies "No, i can make it, i just want to make sure we're still on". sounds great and everything is cool right? ......... WRONG! because i get home, relax, so whatever and as the time approaches for me to leave i take a shower and get dressed. As im leavin in my car i text her "hey give me your location again, just to make sure i got it right"........... hmm No answer. i say to myself...... "hm, she might be in the shower or doing whatever, she'll get back to me in a bit" so i start driving 7 Fukin miles... text her again with the same location request..... Nothing. I say to myself...... Wtf is goin on here, so i continue on.... I get around the area i was going to pick her up and still no reply. I pull over and take a deep breath........ I call her and it goes straight to voicemail. At that moment i kinda laughed to myself in shock because ive never been flaked like this. I drive off to a bar i knew about and # closed 2 HB's but in the back of my mind, i couldnt help but think of this massive flake i just received,.. just wow. anyway,.... :rolleyes: what a night....... and the mother of all flakes.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"yeah we are, why you might not be able to make it?"

was it necessary to add the last bit?never do that man just assume the sale and thats that.7 miles?wow man next time bring it onto your court buddy thats a waste

but that cant be why she flaked on you so w.e stuff happens just next her
 

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In the history of YOU, perhaps. Sorry bro, we've all been there.

Do not contact her until your head is clear and you're no longer overly emotional about this. Ignore her and treat her with indifference if you happen to bump into her again. This one should be moved immediately to the backbuner and readied for a Next. She's got a hell fvcking lot to make up to you.
 

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619joe said:
"yeah we are, why you might not be able to make it?"

was it necessary to add the last bit?never do that man just assume the sale and thats that.7 miles?wow man next time bring it onto your court buddy thats a waste

but that cant be why she flaked on you so w.e stuff happens just next her
I asked her because i wanted to know NOW if she wasnt going to make it so that i can make other plans.
 

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Jitterbug said:
In the history of YOU, perhaps. Sorry bro, we've all been there.

Do not contact her until your head is clear and you're no longer overly emotional about this. Ignore her and treat her with indifference if you happen to bump into her again. This one should be moved immediately to the backbuner and readied for a Next. She's got a hell fvcking lot to make up to you.
Hey jitter, Im not emotional over it, im just taken back by the shock of what happened. its like getting slapped in the face by someone you think would never slap you, you know? pretty crazy how plans are set and right at the VERY end theres a flake.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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In2theGame said:
I asked her because i wanted to know NOW if she wasnt going to make it so that i can make other plans.
That's pretty weak on your part. I'm not sure if you're aware of it, but you're kinda giving her the idea that you're half expecting her to flake on you and you'll be OK with that, because you can then make other plans.

Do you make appointments in your profession and call up and ask the other party if they can make it or not, so you can make other plans?

In2theGame said:
Hey jitter, Im not emotional over it, im just taken back by the shock of what happened. its like getting slapped in the face by someone you think would never slap you, you know?
Being shocked and being emotional are pretty much the same.

pretty crazy how plans are set and right at the VERY end theres a flake.
If the plan is already set, there's no need for this calling to confirm BS.

If you've already made plans with a girl and she calls you to confirm later on, like that chick did, know that she's thinking of flaking on you.
 

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how hot is this broad?

Jitterbug said:
That's pretty weak on your part. I'm not sure if you're aware of it, but you're kinda giving her the idea that you're half expecting her to flake on you and you'll be OK with that, because you can then make other plans.

Do you make appointments in your profession and call up and ask the other party if they can make it or not, so you can make other plans?



Being shocked and being emotional are pretty much the same.



If the plan is already set, there's no need for this calling to confirm BS.

If you've already made plans with a girl and she calls you to confirm later on, like that chick did, know that she's thinking of flaking on you.
 

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verysuave said:
how hot is this broad?
on the HB scale. shes a HB 8. why?
 

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Its oK...i done worse. keep gaming.
p.s. fukin *****s
 

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on the HB scale. shes a HB 8. why?
She probably got a few offers on the same night. Pretty much every attractive girl who's socially active does. They're party hoppers who are invited to at least half a dozen events on social nights.

When they call you "to confirm if it's still on", they're weighing up their options to see which offers they want to go with that night. Often, they don't make up their minds until the last minute.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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isn't it possible that something happened and she wasn't ignoring you? Just cut contact and wait. if she initiates contact then you're still OK. I mean you don't know what happened. It seemed like she was interested because she contacted you about going out over a week after you mentioned it. Usually girls won't be so bold. They'll wait for the guy to initiate.
 

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I've been in a similar boat as you, so yea, we've all been there man. Next her and move on. She MIGHT have a good reason why she flaked. However, if she did, she still owes you an explanation. If she flaked for a legitimately good reason, then I'd laugh it off should she explain herself. Otherwise, move on.
 

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Why in the hell are we driving in new york city?

Anyway good job closing on those 2 chicks later that night. I appreciate that.

Weird that she would flake like that. Update us when you know what happened.
 

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I 've had worse flakes than that. But still ur situation would piss anyone off. You know what you should do? When she calls you to apologize, let her know that ur already seeing someone else, sorry :)

She obviously doesn't appreciate your time and is very disrespectful. She doesn't reapect you bro. What, she thinks your gonna wait around for her? Dumb bitc#.

One last note about this situation. What are girls thinking when they flake so often like this? They're always playing hard to get, they'll flake, take their sweet a$$ time. Well, let me tell you nothing pisses them off more when they find out you have found someone else. Personally, this has happened so many times with me. Girls taking their time, always saying their busy, flaking. Well, the last few girls that did this to me were so pissed to find out I had nexted them. But what do you expect?! Like I'm just going to wait around for you just cause your hot? Not in this fantasy babe.

Which leads me to believe girls are honestly somewhat retarded. They keep doing this to me (and others) and I always just go to the babe who's down to earth and doesn't flake. And they are pissed and say I'm a player. Dumb *****e$.
 

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about a week ago this chick and I were talkin and I asked her out.
That was the first mistake. Don't ask them out when you meet them. Just get the number.

What happened after that is hard to say, but it seems to fit the type of woman who leads you on to get attention strokes but not ever really meaning to go out with you.

And so I suspect that her "are we still on?" messages were really inquires meant to find out if something came up on your end where you wouldn't be able to keep the date and so she would be off the hook. Ever think about that possibility?

At that moment I kinda laughed to myself in shock because ive never been flaked like this. I drive off to a bar I knew about and # closed 2 HB's
Great way to handle being flaked on!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sprint said:
isn't it possible that something happened and she wasn't ignoring you? Just cut contact and wait. if she initiates contact then you're still OK. I mean you don't know what happened. It seemed like she was interested because she contacted you about going out over a week after you mentioned it. Usually girls won't be so bold. They'll wait for the guy to initiate.
Yeah man i dont know what happened. she was doing alot of initiating. She was interested for sure and then at the very end just screwed me. pretty strange but lets see what happens... she still hasnt contacted me to apologize or anything and im definitely not going to contact her.
 

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guywhoneedshelp said:
Why in the hell are we driving in new york city?

Anyway good job closing on those 2 chicks later that night. I appreciate that.

Weird that she would flake like that. Update us when you know what happened.
because i like driving my Benz lol. had it all cleaned up and ready for a night out too.... Argh! :mad: anyway... I will definitely update on this situation.
 

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Mr. Me said:
That was the first mistake. Don't ask them out when you meet them. Just get the number.

What happened after that is hard to say, but it seems to fit the type of woman who leads you on to get attention strokes but not ever really meaning to go out with you.

And so I suspect that her "are we still on?" messages were really inquires meant to find out if something came up on your end where you wouldn't be able to keep the date and so she would be off the hook. Ever think about that possibility?



Great way to handle being flaked on!
Ive known this girl for a while, i didnt just meet her. The interest level was there because she kept initiating contact involving a night out together. All the positive signs were there......... and at the end..... got a slap to my face. This thing is a blur at the moment cuz i dont know what happened.
 

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ugh, this reminds of this super flakey chick. Probably worse cause I am a complete dumb ass and keep saying yes to her wanting to hang out.

This one chick litterly has asked me to hang out 5 times. Always intiating and showing signs of intrest and flaking out last minute. I then go and give up on this ***** and she ends up sending me messeges via facebook and starts giving me IOIs but always some how ends up flaking. Its extremely annoying, so I feel for ya.

As far as the chick that keeps flakin on me, I am gonna keep her around on facebook so the next HB I score I'll post a bunch of pics of me and her on FB so she'll be sorry she ever flaked.
 

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on the HB scale. shes a HB 8. why?
Wondering the same thing. Too many times does another male rate a women, yet fail to justify the rating.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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