Possibly last time seeing a girl - keep options open or say goodbyes?

[user252009]

The girl I've had a bad oneitis for (it's much better now) is leaving the company and I'll see her one last time these days, in a private setting at work. Should I close with an open option to keep the contact open or rather say goodbye forever and block her on social media, and that's that? I'd still wanna smash her obviously but I'm not as obsessed I used to be.

 

[SW15]

The girl I've had a bad oneitis for (it's much better now) is leaving the company and I'll see her one last time these days, in a private setting at work. Should I close with an open option to keep the contact open or rather say goodbye forever and block her on social media, and that's that? I'd still wanna smash her obviously but I'm not as obsessed I used to be.

Make a bold, in-person move to smash her

 

[derby1]

rejection is better than regret

 

[user252009]

I forgot to mention that we met outside of work once last year, she rejected me, so we haven't talked since. So I'm leaning towards the goodbyes, just wondering whether I should still say "you have my number" rather than goodbye forever.

 

[Black Widow Void]

There are times when I disagree with theories expressed on this forum, but sometimes they hold true. This is one of them.

Women typically do enjoy attention. If they suspect that someone is losing interest, they may throw out some ambiguity to keep a guy hooked. I'm not saying that this is the case with this co-worker girl, but it's something to consider.

It's good to read that you don't have it for this gal as you did in the past. If she knows your interested and she hasn't or isn't stepping up to the plate, my suggestion is to remove any real estate (no matter how small these days) that she occupies in your mind.

--- I just read your above follow up. I wouldn't even tell her that she has your number. If you want to make one final impression.. .be the life of the party on her departure. Pay her no attention and give her something to miss and regret.

 

[user252009]

--- I just read your above follow up. I wouldn't even tell her that she has your number. If you want to make one final impression.. .be the life of the party on her departure. Pay her no attention and give her something to miss and regret.

It's not a party, will just see her one-to-one at work with no one else around. So a cold close is best option, eh

 

[Black Widow Void]

It's not a party, will just see her one-to-one at work with no one else around. So a cold close is best option, eh

You don't want to entirely ignore her or anything. This would probably appear out of the ordinary and maybe even butthurt.

Instead, approach this in a business as usual type attitude. ie; "good luck with the new job" or with a "gee thanks, now we have re-train someone new" friendly smirk. I wouldn't say anything personalized to her.

From what you've written, she already knows that you had an interest in her. She's now leaving the job and with that she's taking with her a lost opportunity with you.

I don't want to offer false encouragement, but do not remove contact info for about a week. I say this in the event that she's not the type to mix business and pleasure. There's no need to send her any reminders. If she's interested, she'll initiate.... but again, I don't wish to throw out false encouragement.

 

[user252009]

From what you've written, she already knows that you had an interest in her. She's now leaving the job and with that she's taking with her a lost opportunity with you.

Sensible and good advice, thanks

 

[dude99]

I forgot to mention that we met outside of work once last year, she rejected me, so we haven't talked since. So I'm leaning towards the goodbyes, just wondering whether I should still say "you have my number" rather than goodbye forever.

She already rejected you. She had her chance. Date new women.

 

[user252009]

She already rejected you. She had her chance. Date new women.

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