Possible to fix a relation?

[Greg]

Hi. Okay so I'm new here, and I'm not really a Don Juan. Yet, I'm almost 20, and I wasn't really the kind of guy looking for love... But I met that girl, last semester, which corresponded to the very specific criterias I have about girls. It took like four months until she became my first girlfriend. Before I decided to move, my friends kept telling me how obvious it was that she loved me, that if only I did something, I could settle the whole thing, which I did, and it worked. So, for the first month, everything went well. It was still obvious that she loved me. Then, some complications happened in my life, and bla, bla, bla, whatever, I started being a more negative. Also, at the same time, she started being more annoyed by one or two aspects of my personnality, like sarcasm, which she only told me when she left me, a few days ago (I'd have fixed that if she would have told it to me before). Whatever, I love that girl, and wanted to have some clues to know whether there was something I could do to fix it. Thanks.

 

[Kevin Cass]

wait so she left you becuase of something in your personality. she left you becuase you love sarcasm. and she couldnt take it anymore. dont be ****ing ridiculous. if she loved you then she wouldnt give a damn about your love for sarcasm. and stayed with you. i think she was just looking for a way out of the relationship. DONT MOLD YOUR PERSONALITY INTO WHAT THE GIRL WANTS. jesus. you might aswell give her total control over your life. if she ditched you becuase of that then she wasnt worth your time. not the other way around. you must always think of it that way. SHE WASTED YOUR TIME. YOU DIDNT WASTE HERS. always keep this mentality.

 

[BluEyes]

Originally posted by Greg
But I met that girl, last semester, which corresponded to the very specific criterias I have about girls. It took like four months until she became my first girlfriend.

Can I ask a question? Why is it that you have "very specific criterias" with girls before you've even had a girlfriend?

From my own perspective, I would tell you to ditch the girl and attribute your "love" for her as nothing more than raging teen hormones. Spend time in the dating world before you settle down. Believe me, from experience, it helps to know what type of girls you "click" with than ones you WANT to click with.

To answer your question, let's do this logically:
Reasons to salvage:
1. You love her
2. She told you she loves you

Reasons to ditch:
1. You moved
2. She doesn't like your personality
3. You are an AFC, and shouldn't be settling down yet.
4. Come on...Let's be honest with eachother here...She told you she loved you, yet she left you because she didn't like your personality... Your personality is YOU. it is YOU, as a person. If she doesn't like your personality, she DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Remember, don't listen to what chicks say...Listen to what chicks DO.

On a different note...How far away did you move that it allowed you two to potentially keep a relationship going?

Send me a PM if you want some advice... I was in a situation exactly like that almost a year ago, and I fvcked up miserably, but I learned my lesson and since then I've paid my dues.

If you don't care about my advice, and still want her back...The only way you'll get her back is by stating your sexual interest in her(stimulating her emotions), and then dropping off the radar. If she's still interested, she'll make the next move.