Possible to be friend with a girl? especially if she's attracted to you?

[Canadien]

Ok, so in my quest to improve myself, I have landed opportunity with lots of girls, but I myself thinking about standards have let go lots of opportunities...

So, this girl is not the most attractive, but she's the first girl attracted to me, she works harder then me to get involved.. and she seems to be taking interest in what I'm doing, so is it love or nothing? Is there possibility for a friendship with a girl?

Impresion for her of me is god like, as I'm becoming very confident in myself theses days, and I have almost perfect comfort zone with her...


So how could I take care of this situation?

She's atually studying at my university, so I could potentially see her there, but is there gonna be trouble later getting involed even in friendly manner?

 

[PhatE1vis]

If this girl really does idolize you as you imply, I think it would be difficult for you to be friends. You won't be nearly on equal playing fields. She'll simply fawn all over you, get her feelings hurt when you're with other girls, etc. A little bit of attraction could be ok, but if she's seriously head-over-heels with your than I'd say you're facing a lot of problems.

Be cordial/friendly with her, but don't be a friend unless you really need that ego boost.

 

[Canadien]

The thing

If this girl really does idolize you as you imply, I think it would be difficult for you to be friends. You won't be nearly on equal playing fields. She'll simply fawn all over you, get her feelings hurt when you're with other girls, etc. A little bit of attraction could be ok, but if she's seriously head-over-heels with your than I'd say you're facing a lot of problems.

Be cordial/friendly with her, but don't be a friend unless you really need that ego boost.

I am looking to find a girl that I can connect to, not necessarily romantically though..

Just last year I could not even make an eye contact with a girls or anyone else for that matter, but I have improved immensly in that aspect.

so, I want to use her as a starting point, as we'r already participating in various actvities together already... For me its like, lets just checkout the whole dating scene, and see how girls react, considering we already have strong comfort zone, I don't see her flaking on me atleast...

For around a year, I've been learnning and practicing lots of stuff from here, most importanly I'm more aware of the game, and to boost my confidence I have started dance lessons, gotten involved in recreational activities, and offcourse joined toastmaster club to become good in public speaking...

Most importantly, I have a plan to make more friends, and to increase my social network, as I'm coming from introverted world, where I used to do everything with my brother and cousins...

So, doesn't it start from the bottom? I'm willing to work to improve my social situation, as I find myself to be very extraverted right now...

I hope I can get some feedback on solving my situation, thanks again for reading my post...

 

[bachelor]

Tell her right away your not interested in her like that... Let her know you would like to be friends. What I would do next is bold, but I would hang out with her hot friends and introduce you to your boys who might be interested in her. That way you win either way!