"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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possible to attract her again ?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cfdagola

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Sosuave says to let the girl chase you. And yet when I did that i lost my girl because she said she did all the initiating all the chasing and in the end she honestly felt i just wasn't interested. she felt she made a mistake.

let me say that I NEVER texted her first. she always had to text me for a conversation to even start.

NEVER showed her any affection unless we were out drinking

NEVER took her on a real date

SHE ALWAYS came at me trying to get me to open up i stay closed and continued to let her fawn over me showering me with affection which usually fell on "Meh..." attitude.

So when you say "let the girl chase you" its complete and total CRAP. please explain where my tactic went wrong? or is all this just derp a derp advice?

Also texting isn't bad as long as you keep it flirty and cut it off after a certain point. i'd say if the chick you're after is a texter and you also like texting there's no harm. So long as you don't make it an all day affair every single day.
 

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cfdagola said:
Sosuave says to let the girl chase you. And yet when I did that i lost my girl because she said she did all the initiating all the chasing and in the end she honestly felt i just wasn't interested. she felt she made a mistake.

let me say that I NEVER texted her first. she always had to text me for a conversation to even start.

NEVER showed her any affection unless we were out drinking

NEVER took her on a real date

SHE ALWAYS came at me trying to get me to open up i stay closed and continued to let her fawn over me showering me with affection which usually fell on "Meh..." attitude.

So when you say "let the girl chase you" its complete and total CRAP. please explain where my tactic went wrong? or is all this just derp a derp advice?

Also texting isn't bad as long as you keep it flirty and cut it off after a certain point. i'd say if the chick you're after is a texter and you also like texting there's no harm. So long as you don't make it an all day affair every single day.
Your strategy is ok
It's just that she was insecure and went for the beta bucks. Nothing you can do. Because if you turned beta, she would have lost interest anyway
In the end, you dodged a bullet. But she will probably try to test the water sometime and try again, or cheat with you etc...

You better go total NC and find another woman
 
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