Possible shyt test

[Cougar10033]

Well i have been seeing a hb9 for around a month now. Our work schedules never match up and this weekend was the first time we were first off the same weekend together. I see her at the gym earlier this week and she says hey we gotta get together this weekend and hang out. I called her today and left a message for her to call me back when shes done work. Well its now 146 in the morning... I didnt blow my night i went out with my friends but deep down im fuming that i did not get a call back. How would you guys deal with this ? I want to keep things going with this girl and i realize now after all the reading i have done that at some stage they will test you... was this a test ? and whats the best way for a guy looking to be with this girl to deal with it ?

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Well i have been seeing a hb9 for around a month now. Our work schedules never match up and this weekend was the first time we were first off the same weekend together. I see her at the gym earlier this week and she says hey we gotta get together this weekend and hang out. I called her today and left a message for her to call me back when shes done work. Well its now 146 in the morning... I didnt blow my night i went out with my friends but deep down im fuming that i did not get a call back. How would you guys deal with this ? I want to keep things going with this girl and i realize now after all the reading i have done that at some stage they will test you... was this a test ? and whats the best way for a guy looking to be with this girl to deal with it ?

It was a test.....want to know why?

2 reasons:1. She said the words "we gotta"

2. She hasn't returned the call.

First of all, when a woman says "gotta" and you as the subject in anything, usually she is testing to see your dominance and availability. "you gotta", and "we gotta".

Be in control, but don't totally ignore her wants. Make dates, get togethers and etc be on your terms.

Why did you call her? and what was the message you left?

You could have bombed her test depending on the message you left.

And when she said "we gotta get together" you should have said "Maybe, I'll see about that" (or something in that nature)... more info!

Good Luck

 

[Cougar10033]

Well she said she wanted to hang out this weekend. I called thursday night randomly to take her out... she called back thursday night saying she had to coach after she was done work and that she just got back from a dinner with her team. I did not call back until this morning and i said hey whats up didnt feel like waking you up last night so im calling you this morning, Gime a call when you get this and leme know what your plans are tonight.... No call back as of yet.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Dunno if this is a test, we don't know how long you've known this woman or how good the social interaction is. When a woman wants to be around you, sets up future plans - You are in.

Sure, you gotta go through the first couple dates of awkwardness - but after awhile things should click in and she should be much more available for you. Seems like she may not be that interested in you.

 

[backbreaker]

remember this...


Look at what women.. and people in general for that matter.. do, and not what they say...

She probably just said that in the heat of the moment..

Just forget about her and move on, She had her opprotunity and blew it.

If she wants your time, she has to make it up to you ,and make sure she understands that.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

When a woman starts doing things out of free will and trying to spend as little time with you - it's time to start looking for a new girl. When it comes to dating, you must be cruel and quick to make decisions. You got one life to live and if this girl is just messing around, you cut it off. Just like how you give the middle finger to the boss that fired you, or if you bad service from a car mechanic shop, you scream and you never do business with them.

 

[Cougar10033]

Well what was supposed to happen was one night this weekend she was heading up to her old college to visit her friends. Either last night or tonight. The other night she was going to be around. Im not certain i want to can this chick yet, this is the first time she pulled this crap. However with her i will make it seem like im completly done with her.. How would you guys go about doing that ? I mean do u guys think leaving a text message stating something like Its common curtesy to call someone back when they call, obviously some people do not have that, Take care... something along those lines ?

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Well what was supposed to happen was one night this weekend she was heading up to her old college to visit her friends. Either last night or tonight. The other night she was going to be around. Im not certain i want to can this chick yet, this is the first time she pulled this crap. However with her i will make it seem like im completly done with her.. How would you guys go about doing that ? I mean do u guys think leaving a text message stating something like Its common curtesy to call someone back when they call, obviously some people do not have that, Take care... something along those lines ?

Nah, just lower your interactions with her. Don't state anything.

But since this is her first time doing it, give her another chance, call her in a few days if she doesn't call you.

If she does it again. drop her.

 

[flexion_]

Well nothing really has happened - you just called her and she hasn't called you back yet.

I suggest you plan things a bit better by giving her a few days notice. Maybe she is away, out on a date, sick with menstrual cramps...

 

[Cougar10033]

I agree... we made these plans earlier in the week, she had called me last weekend 2 times to hang out and i was busy so she wanted to hang out this weekend. She just called my cellphone at around 4pm...I didnt answer it, i take it she is in town tonight. However i was pissed because she did not call last night to let me know what she was doing. If it was a few years ago i would have waited and not gone out with my friends, i did go out with them however it still pissed me off.