Possible LTR

[Jerky Boi]

I'm gonna try and make this as short as possible, but I doubt I can haha. Anyways, here's the story:



I met this girl at the beginning of Junior year, which was this past year. I get her number and talk to her for a while. She ends up liking me but eventually something happens and we quit talking. Well, recently I start talking to her again online and call her a few times. Her IL starts to rise of me. She even told me that everytime I called and she saw my name on her cell phone, that it made her smile and made her really happy. I don't know how much more obvious you can get but anyways..


I call her the other day and talk to her for a few minutes. I remember her telling me that she enjoys watching softball games at the field behind another high school in town. I was off on Thursday, so I ask her if she'd like to go with me. She accepted. I told her I'd call the day after (Thursday) and see when she wanted to go.<--I realize my obvious mistake there. I should have set up a definite time, but yea. The games started at about 6, so I called her at about 3 in the afternoon, but no one answered. I had to go eat with my mom a little while after that so I just came home to see if she'd call back, but no one did. I didn't bother with it because I'd assumed that she either had something else to do or she simply didn't want to go. So I went out for a while with my friends until about 11. I got on the comp for a while after I got home and she ends up IM'ing me telling me she was sorry she'd missed my call and that she'd only found out about it a few minutes ago.



Here's where it gets strange. I look at her profile and on her status it said she was taken..the day before it had said single. I'm trying not to assume that she had been leading me on this whole time because I don't really know what or why that's on there. She even preached to me once about how she thinks it's really wrong that girls lead guys on all the time and she'd never do that. This girl's really kool and in my opinion would be an excellent LTR. I normally don't ask a lot of questions on here but I was just really interested on what you guys think of this situation? It's really late right now so I'm about to go to bed. I'll probably end up having to talk to her tomorrow sometime.

 

[JSH]

hehe, if your in tight with her friends, just spend some time talking with them and if she is taken then eventually it will come up, dont look like you are digging for information.

Alternatively ask her, but that might be a bit frustrating for you, or just dig for information among your friends.

IMOHO the best way to play it is to stop speaking to her and just find out information casually, as they say knowledge is power, becasue i figure your interest in her isnt common knowledge.

But wtf were you even doing looking at her profile two days in a row, it seems like you are a little obsessed, which tends not to be healthy. Also beware girls sometimes say one thing and then do another, the leading on thing could just have been a blatent lie, or she could have been told she did it. Therefore saying it to you to try and convince herself that she does not do it and that you understand.

Again if you ask her out on a date, try and set the date up properly, time, date, place, it makes it easier. In fact do that with everything you arrange otherwise its frustrating if you cant get through (like when i was gonna go to Cloud's party).

 

[Jerky Boi]

Alright guys, I wasn't planning on posting on this thread but something happened just recently I thought I might add.


I kinda quit talking to this girl after a while. We never ended up getting to go on that date and I called her a few days after that but she didn't answer so I kinda just nexted her and started talking to about 3 girls that I'm still talking to now.

Anyways, I still talk to her online but I haven't called her in a while. Today online, she asked me how my love life was going and I responded but saying it was great, that I'm still single, and that I'm talking to 3 other girls right now. I asked her, and she told me that she likes 2 guys right now, that she's really confused, and that one of them is me. ( She also thinks that I don't like her and have no interest in her anymore.)

After that, she kept bugging and bugging me about who the other 3 girls that I'm talking to are, but I told her I wouldn't tell her. I'll prolly talk to her here ina bit when I get back on. I don't necessarily need this girl, but I wouldn't mind spending more time with her and maybe seeing if that'll lead into something more. I'm not too big on telling girls that I like them though because I always have this sense that I'm no longer and challenge anymore and that they've lost interest. Anyone have any advice on how I should handle this? I've never really been in a situation like this before.

 

[kevbo]

Originally posted by Jerky Boi
She even preached to me once about how she thinks it's really wrong that girls lead guys on all the time and she'd never do that.

not to try to diminish the quality of this girl's morals or anything, but any girl would say that. it seems to be a natural instinct for them to play games like that. that aside, you're right to not want to outright tell her you like her. just go do something with her. something creative, of course.

 

[JSH]

um dude, never tell them what the competitions like, although if you thought she wasnt interested then you wouldnt have seen the harm. NEVER tell about the competition