Hi guys!
I'm new to this forum. It seems to be a very friendly forum.
I'll try to cut a long story short here, so you guys can help me.
I used to be active in the pickup scene in the past. But I stopped and was dedicated to improve other areas of my life. Although I used to be heavily into pickup I never had a relationship.
A few months ago, my mom opened her own church and asked me to help her there. So, I became a pastor there.
It seems this position in the church worked well to catch attention from the ladies.
A few days ago a member of the church told me another girl was in love with me for 7 months!
Then suddenly everybody started talking about this. Including my mom, the other pastor and the mom of this girl (who's also a member of the church).
I went ahead and asked her if she really liked me like people said. It ended up the answer was yes.
We made our first meeting at the mall and she was reluctant to kiss. She said she never kissed before and never had a boyfriend. But she declared she really wanted to get to know me better.
Then she came with some major ****storm: she told my mom on the phone that she was afraid of interfering in my activities in the church. She also told my mom that she didn't want that I hurt her feelings.
We met again at the mall and I tried to make her feel more secure saying it was in her head. We then kissed in this afternoon.
Then at another day my mom invited her to have a quick meal at my house. She came and we talk/kissed as always.
Ok. Here's a few more data:
* She studies at university in the morning and works in the afternoon. At night she goes to the church every night. She told me she's very busy. She works in a hospital and have some crazy schedule, like working in some weekends.
* She's 5 years younger than me. I'm 27.
* She NEVER calls me or sends me SMS.
* When we meet at the church she gets a ride at my mom's car to the bus stop. She hugs me and kisses me and then leave.
* Her mom said she approves our relationship. (I know that sounds retarded, but it's common in the Christian community).
* This girl seemed to be very insecure. She said she thought I'd never date her because she's half-black and her mom works as house maid, while I'm white and from a richer family.
3 days ago I said to her "when you arrive me give me a ring and I'll call you to see if you arrived at home safely.". She DIDN'T DO it. Next day she said she thought it was late in the night. I said "Ok. But you can call me anyway". The next day she did call me. Then yesterday she DIDN'T CALL me again.
She previsouly told me she would be available to go out this Sunday. Then yesterday she told me she'll be busy this Sunday.
This is all starting to look weird. Her behaviour just doesn't match. For someone who's in love why is she being so cold?
I need advice for:
a) How to proceed?
b) Is it normal or is she playing me?
c) Why does she seem into me when she meets me in the church, but not so much when far away from me?
Thanks guys! I'm sorry for the long post, but I wanted to give the most amount of data I could so you can help me.
I'm new to this forum. It seems to be a very friendly forum.
I'll try to cut a long story short here, so you guys can help me.
I used to be active in the pickup scene in the past. But I stopped and was dedicated to improve other areas of my life. Although I used to be heavily into pickup I never had a relationship.
A few months ago, my mom opened her own church and asked me to help her there. So, I became a pastor there.
It seems this position in the church worked well to catch attention from the ladies.
A few days ago a member of the church told me another girl was in love with me for 7 months!
Then suddenly everybody started talking about this. Including my mom, the other pastor and the mom of this girl (who's also a member of the church).
I went ahead and asked her if she really liked me like people said. It ended up the answer was yes.
We made our first meeting at the mall and she was reluctant to kiss. She said she never kissed before and never had a boyfriend. But she declared she really wanted to get to know me better.
Then she came with some major ****storm: she told my mom on the phone that she was afraid of interfering in my activities in the church. She also told my mom that she didn't want that I hurt her feelings.
We met again at the mall and I tried to make her feel more secure saying it was in her head. We then kissed in this afternoon.
Then at another day my mom invited her to have a quick meal at my house. She came and we talk/kissed as always.
Ok. Here's a few more data:
* She studies at university in the morning and works in the afternoon. At night she goes to the church every night. She told me she's very busy. She works in a hospital and have some crazy schedule, like working in some weekends.
* She's 5 years younger than me. I'm 27.
* She NEVER calls me or sends me SMS.
* When we meet at the church she gets a ride at my mom's car to the bus stop. She hugs me and kisses me and then leave.
* Her mom said she approves our relationship. (I know that sounds retarded, but it's common in the Christian community).
* This girl seemed to be very insecure. She said she thought I'd never date her because she's half-black and her mom works as house maid, while I'm white and from a richer family.
3 days ago I said to her "when you arrive me give me a ring and I'll call you to see if you arrived at home safely.". She DIDN'T DO it. Next day she said she thought it was late in the night. I said "Ok. But you can call me anyway". The next day she did call me. Then yesterday she DIDN'T CALL me again.
She previsouly told me she would be available to go out this Sunday. Then yesterday she told me she'll be busy this Sunday.
This is all starting to look weird. Her behaviour just doesn't match. For someone who's in love why is she being so cold?
I need advice for:
a) How to proceed?
b) Is it normal or is she playing me?
c) Why does she seem into me when she meets me in the church, but not so much when far away from me?
Thanks guys! I'm sorry for the long post, but I wanted to give the most amount of data I could so you can help me.
