"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Possibility of screwin the EX?

zzeitgeist

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Long story short my exGF called it off about 4 months ago from a 4 year relationship. I was so used to being in control that when this happened I spiraled into AFC mode. The worst kind of AFC mode you can imagine. After two weeks of being a major AFC and pushing her even further away I stopped and got back on my game.

To make this shorter
- I limited contact (went absolutely 0 contact for a month than Low Contact after)
- Hit the gym hard
- Got a new hairstyle
- Got new stylish clothing
- Started rebuilding my social circle
- Began partying
- Began socializing with everyone around me
- Began reading this don juan bs again to remind myself how not to ever act like a tool again
- Posted pictures weekly from parties on facebook (resparked ex interest)

Now, the only problem is I haven't gotten laid since, mostly because I am still working on my approach anxiety and closing and to be honest I am at a point where I don't care if I get her back as a GF but would love to fuk her one more time haha while I spin more plates and get comfortable with new girls.

So heres why I think I still have a chance(to fuk) and where I need some advice.

Last week I drove over to pick up my winter tires that where in her storage. At this point I haven't seen her for over 2 months. I saw her acted very indifferent, gave her a short hug where I lifted her a bit of the ground (not the AFC kind of hug lol). Anywho, went to get my tires. Told her a short story about how my car alarm went off and wouldn't stop for the whole day while I was at work, than said a quick goodbye (no hug) and left.

When I got home I called her to see if she wanted to grab a coffee later next week. She said she didn't know if she could do this, she said she cried after seeing me and told me she was scared shes gonna start liking me again if we hang out(... lol). So I told her I cant keep this friendship alive by myself (fuk friendship haha) and she agreed and than became a little excited.

So this coffee is a week from today. I was gonna tell her some BS stories about my exciting weekends, kino her be a little ****y and funny and w/e that I can fit in. Than mention to her I have the new Dane Cook (she loved dane cook) at my place that I just got and she should come over and watch. If she does, i do more kino and try to F-close if not I act indifferent , drive her home, act cool as a cucumber and move to the next girl.

(2 days after this I have a coffee date with a different girl so I dont get oneitis if this goes wrong lol)

I guess I would like some advice as to what would work. I read somewhere that once a girls interest drops below 50 percent your done.... so is there a way to bring it back up???

Don't worry I am not gonna spend the next 3 months trying to get her back, I just gonna try this one night to f-close and if it doesnt work I'll cut all contact with her again and get out there with as many new girls I can which I have already slowly started doing.

So what do you guys think? Think there is a chance if I play this right, any specific technique that works really well?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dole

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hey man i don't really have any adivce for you but I read your post and just wanted to say that I hope everything work's out for you :yes:
 

PlaysToWin

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I think you should leave your ex alone.

First of all, she will fall for you again and you're only leading her on. You'll just want sex, and she'll either want just a platonic friendship or if you have sex, she'll want to get back together.

Secondly, I think you should continue to work on getting laid with a new girl (even if just a few ONSs) just so you don't become reliant on old ground for your sex. Getting girls into your bed is probably the weakest part of your game so you should work on that. And going back to the ex isn't going to help you there.
 

Cremasta

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Just go for it. Nothing wrong with ex-sex. Make sure you sit close to her where you can accidentally (or not) brush against her.

Doing your ex doesn't help you get other women, except that you are more relaxed because you're getting some.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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gruby

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nah, don't do it. it's not worthy it. i was in similar situation a few months ago pretending to think what you r but in reality i was still kinda into my ex. nowdays, we hanged out a few weeks back, she was drunk and into me and we slept in her bed but i for sure was glad not to make the move as i'm so over it. i'm simply not into her anymore. it's better that way. y r doing good with your social life so you will get laid with another girl in no time.
 
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