"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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possessiveness?

whatdude

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im gonna make this short and sweet cuz i dont wanna bore you guys.

ive been with my girl for 6 months and i become heated or jealous when she talks with my guy friends behind my back, or her guy friends. She seems to have tons of them.

Also, i become EXTREMELY pissed off when she goes to bars. Shes 21 and im 20... I don't know what to do... i really feel for her but I dont wanna be crushed if I ever find out shes fvcking around on me. Whats the probability of that she is cheating on me.. ?

And how do i prepare myself to begin to ditch her and move on to another girl if neccessary?

Thanks guys. Later
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You are being jealous, and that means that you're probably insecure about your relationship with your girlfriend. Deep down, you may even subconciously suspect that you don't deserve to be with her.

Most girls find jealousy to be a huge turn-off.
 

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"Whats the probability of that she is cheating on me.. ?

And how do i prepare myself to begin to ditch her and move on to another girl if neccessarry"
-Probability is very high and with your attitude I really don't feel you'll have to worry about ditching her-she'll take care of that. You need to be looking for prospects ALWAYS, and with the next one try at all costs to keep her thinking you could care less who she talk to.
 

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I'll put it this way..

If you act like you are now, she will cheat on you.

You need to become a more secure person, it's not her that is the problem here. Search for articles on confidence and self-respect, you need to become a better person within yourself before you start worrying about anyone else.

She's being human by the way. Don't expect her to snuggle up with you every friday night and saturday night, regailing you with tales of her undying love and devotion to you. She deserves to have a social life, and unless you change, that life will not include you.
 

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Jealousy

is what others should be of you. trust me relax because if you keep this up its almost certain that your love will take this as a lack of confidence on your part and fly away. ive been there, done that and feel for you. Best way around it is to let her do her thing and go out on girls nights WITHOUT YOU. Then romance her on off nights and take control of the situation so that her attention is all on you and no one else (if she cares for you). I warn you again this bull**** will push her away if shes not already with someone else.
whatdude said:
im gonna make this short and sweet cuz i dont wanna bore you guys.

ive been with my girl for 6 months and i become heated or jealous when she talks with my guy friends behind my back, or her guy friends. She seems to have tons of them.

Also, i become EXTREMELY pissed off when she goes to bars. Shes 21 and im 20... I don't know what to do... i really feel for her but I dont wanna be crushed if I ever find out shes fvcking around on me. Whats the probability of that she is cheating on me.. ?

And how do i prepare myself to begin to ditch her and move on to another girl if neccessary?

Thanks guys. Later
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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exactly what are you jealous about?
shes probally telling them how happy she is with you.

you will be 21 not too long from now and you will be able to go to clubs and stuff with her. if you really dont want her to go to stuff like that find something else for the two of you to do and that way she wont be going to them by herself.
 

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ive been with my girl for 6 months and i become heated or jealous when she talks with my guy friends behind my back, or her guy friends. She seems to have tons of them.

Also, i become EXTREMELY pissed off when she goes to bars. Shes 21 and im 20... I don't know what to do...


So she has tons of guy friends, so what, it doesn't mean she's sleeping with any of them. Why are you insecure and what are you afraid of? Has she done anything recently to make you start feeling this way? As she ALWAYS had male friends, or did she recently start hanging out with guys more?
 
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