Positive Energy Everywhere

[Kailex]

Ever been to work or go out with friends, and ALWAYS have that one person who is down about their lives, who complains seasonally about how miserable they are, or how they wish they had some of the advantages in life that others had?

We all do. Doesn't matter where we go, we all know at least ONE GUY who is like this, constantly.

I just want to let you know that it's doubly imprtant to always have positive energy wherever you go. Not only for yourself, but for the people around you. You want to be the guy that other people enjoy being around, even when you are secretly having a bad day.

You have no idea how many times, I've met people who feel the need to chain themselves to certain conditions in their lives. These are the people that no one like to be around, the guy who never gets laid or has a girlfriend... and yet, he can't understand why.

It's a Catch-22.
With every additional rejection he's handed down, he buries his head even deeper into his shell, reluctant to face life and understand that the changes that need to be made are within him. It' so much easier to point the finger and blame some other external force than look inside.

Positive energy attracts positive outcomes, even if it seems that a specific outcome is negative at first.

Always smile, look your best and be positive about everything in your life, and truly believe that your life is good or WILL get better.

Be the guy everyone wants to be around.

You have no idea how many people I had to cut from my life just because they added negative energy from mine. Harsh, maybe. But there are times I needed to be selfish and eliminate these poisons in my life in order to better myself.

I might be going on a bit of extreme here, but it's always important, specially for mature men, to remain positive and to be the guiding light in the middle of many storms. It's not about being a DJ or being alpha or any of that, it's about being a man that greatly enjoys the life he's been cultivating over the years.

Don't be the guy who sits and mopes over a very many things. Be the guy who can always smile and look forward to the next day with excitement. Be the guy with interesting stories, hobbies, and more importantly, a full agenda.

Just be positive.

 

[Maxtro]

You talk like it's so easy. Have you ever been that guy who hated his life? You think he can just change overnight?

 

[Kailex]

You talk like it's so easy. Have you ever been that guy who hated his life? You think he can just change overnight?

Yes, I have been that guy.
I realized it years ago when I noticed no one wanted to be around me.

Know what I did? I CHANGED THAT.
I didn't sit there ANYMORE and complain to myself about how bad off I was, about how the world hated me, about how life wasn't fair.

It happened to me at age 21. So I started hitting local happy hours. Started socializing with the regulars. I played more sports, went to parks, went to the beach, and all that good stuff.

I met people, became more positive in my life, and lo and behold my job as a bartender was an opportunity that I had simply because I was a regular at a specific bar. Did I know how to bartend? No. Was I certified? No. But I was taught by one of the best. Pretty soon I was meeting people left and right while doing that job...

Am I telling you to go out and become a bartender? No.
But you have to be open to options, go out, do many things, look for places where you can build social circles. But as long as people keep adopting negative mindsets, they'll stay buried within them.

Yes, it's easy for me to talk about this, I've been there, but I'll never be there again.

 

[Donnie Darko]

You have no idea how many people I had to cut from my life just because they added negative energy from mine. Harsh, maybe. But there are times I needed to be selfish and eliminate these poisons in my life in order to better myself.

I might be going on a bit of extreme here, but it's always important, specially for mature men, to remain positive and to be the guiding light in the middle of many storms. It's not about being a DJ or being alpha or any of that, it's about being a man that greatly enjoys the life he's been cultivating over the years.

I enjoyed your post. I just recently had to cut one of my best friend's out of my life. We had been friends for 17 years but he never grew up or matured and constantly added negativity and pointless drama to my life. He's been depressed for years and been using drugs and now he has been unemployed for 8 months. I tried to be there as a friend and help advise him but ultimately he was too selfish and stubborn to accept my help. His negativity definitely had a bad impact on my personal happiness and disposition. It was a big relief to get the burden of our "friendship" off of my shoulders and to just let him go.

I tried talking to him about it at first but he continued to call and text and annoy me with his negativity. So I installed magicall onto my smartphone and blocked his phone number from calling me or sending me SMS messages. FYI - I see great potential in this software for helping people go no contact with girls or to help them get over an EX. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Anyway, I also blocked his e-mail address and blocked his facebook. It was a harsh decision but I'm a happier better person for it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Researchers have found that when they study a couple's communication, the more negatively they tend to communicate, then the shorter the relationship tends to last. The negativity was mostly toward life in general and not their relationship partner, but that didn't matter.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16822

- Nobody likes a complainer. Unless he’s really funny.

 

[Warrior74]

You talk like it's so easy. Have you ever been that guy who hated his life? You think he can just change overnight?

I have. I used to be that guy in my early 20s. I will say this for my friends, they stuck with me regardless. They tried to get me out of the house and tried to get me to cheer up and enjoy life, but I couldn't see past my own problems. Now I'm enjoying life and they are the ones that tend to be more negative, but I don't disown them. We still hang out. I just have different friends that I hang out with for different things. The truely negative people who start drama and BS, they get cut out with the quickness.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Bondage is - subjection to external forces and negative internal thoughts and attitudes. We may be our own captors, but we may just as easily be our own liberators. It is simply a matter of DECISION.

The man of DECISION cannot be stopped!
The man of INDECISION cannot be started!

Make your choice.