Ok I'm really struggling here. I've given up chewing tobacco (withdrawals were bad) and drinking alcohol but giving up porn has been a challenge. I've given up the hardcore porn but still find myself looking at non-nudes and dancing girls on youtube. I don't jerk off while watching but I do immediately after. Hopefully soon enough I will eliminate all virtual girls because I know it has affected me in relationships (not only females but every relationship).
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This is really interesting that tobacco and alcohol were easier than giving up porn.Mark1234 said:
What I reccommend to you is going cold turkey on viewing ANY kind of female on the computer; hardcore, softcore, dancing girls, girls in bikinis, etc.
You can only use your imagination, and feel free to jerk off as much as you want. Set up your life so that the only way you can view beautiful women is by going OUT.
Then, a month from now, start jerking off once or twice a week.
It's called progressive desensitization.
thanks for the advice Vice
It might be because I've only been using tobacco and alcohol for about 5-6 years (25 now) and really only used them for the buzz. And have been using porn/pics of girls to get my rocks off for about 10+ years. I have actually noticed a difference since not watching hardcore porn (going on 1 month now). I feel more at ease around people, less anxiety (still there but minimal and controllable), feel a lot more comfortable around girls, have a deep desire to connect with others, and I can talk to strangers without getting all panicky and weird. I don't know if porn has affected me more so than others but that is my experience, now to quit the soft stuff, which is going to be hard (pun intended haha)!
It might be because I've only been using tobacco and alcohol for about 5-6 years (25 now) and really only used them for the buzz. And have been using porn/pics of girls to get my rocks off for about 10+ years. I have actually noticed a difference since not watching hardcore porn (going on 1 month now). I feel more at ease around people, less anxiety (still there but minimal and controllable), feel a lot more comfortable around girls, have a deep desire to connect with others, and I can talk to strangers without getting all panicky and weird. I don't know if porn has affected me more so than others but that is my experience, now to quit the soft stuff, which is going to be hard (pun intended haha)!
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Telling someone to control their porn addiction is like telling a crack addict to control their crack addiction.davidchatman said:
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+1Mark1234 said:
I gave up smoking, chewing, drinking as long as I want. But porn more that a few weeks is extremely tough.
Also, want to add that I have always just liked the porns with the best looking women. It never went to extreme stuff like anti-porn people advocate.
So I looked at some porn yesterday and jeez it was a pretty intense experience. I was browsing the internet before bed and a seductive picture appeared in an ad. This led me to explore more pictures and before long I watched a hardcore video (been about 2-3 weeks since I've done that). Wow I was hit with a rush of euphoria and feel good feelings. After I watched for about 3-4 minutes I turned the video off and "finished the job" so to speak. Now today, all I can think about is looking at porn. It's very powerful stuff!
Some people say watching porn desensitizes you to real women but I don't quite agree.
IMO, if can be seduced by a "seductive image" or video of 2 random people fvcking, that means when you see the real thing in life it is so much stronger since it is the real thing.
If a fvcking online photograph can seduce a person, what can a real woman do to you? Maybe that's why we get AFC's who worship women.
IMO, if can be seduced by a "seductive image" or video of 2 random people fvcking, that means when you see the real thing in life it is so much stronger since it is the real thing.
If a fvcking online photograph can seduce a person, what can a real woman do to you? Maybe that's why we get AFC's who worship women.