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Porn is not unrealistic and NoFap is not a cure.

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I repeatedly hear that porn provides unrealistic expectations to a man, so they aren't able to get hard or horny unless to the most model looking woman that is showcased around sites like pornhub and such. Both men and women feel that porn puts high expectations on them to perform and look their best. And that removing oneself from porn will effectively help them be motivated to get a woman and more motivated in life in general. I believe the issue here is that people are confusing one thing for the cause of the other. Rather than just seeing them as two separate issues that generally come from a different problem. In this case, motivation has nothing to do with porn. Without it, the person will still not have much if they don't have a goal in the first place.

So is porn unrealistic? It's no more unrealistic than football or other elite activities. It's an ideal, and striving for that ideal is not a bad thing. A man that can **** multiple women and go for long periods of time is mostly a stamina fitness thing. Becoming that man will not hurt anyone trying to match that image because it effectively makes you a better looking person and gives you more energy for other real life tasks. The big part of this ideal is women. They hate porn the most because it forces them to have to compete with these women. That means three things:
  • Men like women who service them. Most western women hate this.
  • Men like women who take care of their appearance and at least is not afraid of showing their female side. Too many women act like men these days.
  • Men like women who are seductive. This applies to the first point, but it's more that a woman shows she wants the man to f*ck her, a trait you barely see these days. There are no feminine women walking up to a man and trying to get sex out of him simply to please him [no escorts or hookers apply].
So what is my thoughts on porn in general? Am I praising it? Not at all. A man who has many women has no need for porn. I see it mostly as a tool and as a free market activity upon our culture. It's meant to keep women in check because men give time, attention, and most of all money, toward media that displays sexy women. It's a necessity so that women have to compete in some matter. That is why you have all these women on twitch, onlyfans, and other places because they know that sex sells. And if they want that dough, they have to play up all parts of their womanhood. It's amazing watching all these infuriated feminists who hate having to be a woman and yet complaining that they cannot get that top dollar man they want. The contradiction is laughable from my pov, and it explains why men often go overseas to countries where women are still women.

NoFap is not a cure.

Most of the time, the man is doing something else that is contributing to his rise in productivity. Which is the point. NoFap was just an awareness that men are sitting at home doing lots of wasteful activities. Porn was just one of them. Bad diets, little to no exercise, no social life, probably stays on the computer 24/7. NoFap doesn't resolve this on its own. You could fix all of the bad things I just listed and you can still fap in peace. I've followed NoFap stories for a long time, and my conclusion is that men were confusing NoFap with Get Sh*t Done.

So no, porn is not unrealistic outside of steroid use and guys with elephant trunk d*cks [men always have the higher standards to match in porn where women have more leeway so this is just another avenue of women complaining about the easiest thing they can fix about themselves. Most women do not even need breast implants]. And NoFap is not a cure cause fapping is not the problem nor is porn.
I do not know how this post has received so many likes. Just shows how people are totally clueless about this stuff. Go do a basic read of this:


You've also probably never done nofap in your life.
 

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most women in porn are simply young, fit and take superb care of their skin
Really, that's the definition of being beautiful (except for the being in in porn part lol).


you also must say they got a bit of ego. They flip their lid because you want to check out some chick on Instagram who happens to be 23 and hot. As if they expect to be the only woman on planet Earth their man finds attractive and then when they find out they aren’t
The great thing about being an attractive woman is that you are like irresistible candy to men. The not so great thing is that there is a whole lot of candy out there.
 
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I’ve been a porn addict since I was 12 (now 29) and its been a near daily habit all this time, I no longer have the ability to get it up with real women despite having no issues at all when it comes to watching porn. This addiction has destroyed me in so many ways, I’ve never had a girlfriend or dated anyone as a result of it as well.
You seem to be blaming allot of things as to why you dont have a gf. Do you ever hear chad/chadlite posters ever talking about that? If you had a nice gf from high school do you really think you would be into that today?
 

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I do not know how this post has received so many likes. Just shows how people are totally clueless about this stuff. Go do a basic read of this:


You've also probably never done nofap in your life.
Cause NoFap is a placebo for the person missing more than one thing. Stopping porn or fapping doesn't fix your fundamental issues.
 

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I’ve been a porn addict since I was 12 (now 29) and its been a near daily habit all this time, I no longer have the ability to get it up with real women despite having no issues at all when it comes to watching porn. This addiction has destroyed me in so many ways, I’ve never had a girlfriend or dated anyone as a result of it as well.
There was a guy here who had a Bionic d1ck. I think he could get it up with the press of a button.
 

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One thing I notice, is, if I masturbate within a couple days before sex, it's harder to cvm. I think it's due to the tighter grip vs, the woman's pusssy. If 3-4 days go by, then there doesn't seem to be a higher threshold to cvm.
 

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There was a guy here who had a Bionic d1ck. I think he could get it up with the press of a button.
His name was RichtheFrog (ie sounds similar to RicktheToad I know) and he was a prolific hormongerer, he would visit escorts like nothing, travel overseas on sex-tours, even to slum brothels in India looking for sex, and brag about how easy it is to be with an hb8-10 rather than all the fuss about having to game or deal with drama from the ladies. I haven't seen him back here even with another alias unless he is lurking or managed to mask himself very well. He had stint going to prison and worked with his father's business (which was successful and lucrative). His experience in prison hardened him and he preferred seeing escorts/prostitutes/sugar daddy arrangements over game/LMS,
etc... after his experience in jail.
 

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You seem to be blaming allot of things as to why you dont have a gf. Do you ever hear chad/chadlite posters ever talking about that? If you had a nice gf from high school do you really think you would be into that today?
Well chad/chadlite posters never had issues with their confidence and probably got girlfriends in their teens. I probably wouldn't have become so heavily involved with porn if I had a gf back then, I dove deep into the world of online porn since that was my only sexual outlet back then and still is today.
 

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Well chad/chadlite posters never had issues with their confidence and probably got girlfriends in their teens. I probably wouldn't have become so heavily involved with porn if I had a gf back then, I dove deep into the world of online porn since that was my only sexual outlet back then and still is today.
Of course. You would have more opportunities to be social with women and develop more social skills as well. Why blame yourself for anything at this point? You dont have another outlet so its not your fault.
 

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Of course. You would have more opportunities to be social with women and develop more social skills as well. Why blame yourself for anything at this point? You dont have another outlet so its not your fault.
Well technically I do have another outlet, which are escorts. But they're really expensive.
 

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I have zero savings right now, you'd think that I would have a lot from living at home all my life, but I have zero.
I would wire money to you if I was not a Christian and therefore not allowed to go there. But maybe someone else will.
 

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I have to disagree with the title of this post. I've found that the difference between Japanese news broadcasts in Japan and those on porn websites is significant.
 

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I have to disagree with the title of this post. I've found that the difference between Japanese news broadcasts in Japan and those on porn websites is significant.
I didn't see much difference. Sure, the newscaster seems to be more bothered by something on the pron sites, but it's just as informative.
 

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Buy a washing machine.Its sorts out your full dirty load,and beats doing it by hand
 
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