Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Porn effects on women

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We talk a lot about the side effects of porn addiction here. Seemingly there is a huge battle of opinion and whichever side you choose ("to fap," or "not to fap"), I wanted to share my experience about the effects on women.

Recently I posted this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/girl-takes-forever-to-c-m.237512/#post-2381210

Come to find out she does indeed watch an inordinate amount of porn.

A few google searches confirmed my theory; studies in pre menopausal women have proven that women similarly struggle with the same type of "impotence."

Although I've now found ways to "make her tick," it's an infuriating process being with someone who suffers from porn addiction.

Whether you'd like to believe it or not I wanted to shed some light on the subject.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah i gotta stop watching porn myself. But it's hard to do at 17 haha. The issue is, women just are not nearly as hot as they are in porn and they don't have sex the same way they do in porn either. I had to learn that one myself lol. It stopped me from getting hard because I was just not physically attracted to any of the woman's bodies. In reality though, women can DEFINITELY do a lot better. They spend hours shopping for new clothes trying to see which looks best on them to the very slightest nuance. I know a girl who looks really hot when you first see her. But when she took off her clothes, she looked like a potato with limbs. Disgusting. She couldn't even arch her back backwards. Like that **** turned me off man. But I guess that's just how over 99% of women look like in America I suppose. It absolutely sucks because I have a very chiseled physique myself and it isn't completely noticeable until they see me naked, and this chick seemed to think that it was normal for guys to look like me. Like wtf, very few guys are actually in shape. Funny thing is though, she took no appreciation towards physical fitness, but expected all guys to look good themselves and be fit despite her looking like a potato. Disgusting. This is why I refused to act on the vast majority of IOIs because women just don't look nearly as good as I do. If I try to look good, then they should too. It absolutely sucks. The chicks that are really hot though and have a nice body only want superstar type guys. It is so dumb.
 

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Not too concerned, porn has been around since people could carve on wood. IOW, a fuking long time. Porn is not going anywhere anytime soon. :)
 

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Yeah i gotta stop watching porn myself. But it's hard to do at 17 haha. The issue is, women just are not nearly as hot as they are in porn and they don't have sex the same way they do in porn either. I had to learn that one myself lol. It stopped me from getting hard because I was just not physically attracted to any of the woman's bodies. In reality though, women can DEFINITELY do a lot better. They spend hours shopping for new clothes trying to see which looks best on them to the very slightest nuance. I know a girl who looks really hot when you first see her. But when she took off her clothes, she looked like a potato with limbs. Disgusting. She couldn't even arch her back backwards. Like that **** turned me off man. But I guess that's just how over 99% of women look like in America I suppose. It absolutely sucks because I have a very chiseled physique myself and it isn't completely noticeable until they see me naked, and this chick seemed to think that it was normal for guys to look like me. Like wtf, very few guys are actually in shape. Funny thing is though, she took no appreciation towards physical fitness, but expected all guys to look good themselves and be fit despite her looking like a potato. Disgusting. This is why I refused to act on the vast majority of IOIs because women just don't look nearly as good as I do. If I try to look good, then they should too. It absolutely sucks. The chicks that are really hot though and have a nice body only want superstar type guys. It is so dumb.
Dude one time I stopped watching porn and masturbating for a week (after using it almost daily for years) and the next time I had sex, 7 days after I stopped, I swear my erection was like I snorted a line of Viagra. I could have keyed someone's car if i rubbed up against it with the bloody thing.

Porn is soooooo addicting, but if I were you I'd definitely abstain from it and I'd also cut down on the masturbation to only once or twice a week maximum.
 

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Dude one time I stopped watching porn and masturbating for a week (after using it almost daily for years) and the next time I had sex, 7 days after I stopped, I swear my erection was like I snorted a line of Viagra. I could have keyed someone's car if i rubbed up against it with the bloody thing.

Porn is soooooo addicting, but if I were you I'd definitely abstain from it and I'd also cut down on the masturbation to only once or twice a week maximum.
Will do. Thanks for the errr.... detailed response haha
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SmooveMooves

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I can't picture a woman watching porn. What do they get out of it?
 

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I can't picture a woman watching porn. What do they get out of it?
for me, I find it erotic and it arouses me. I dont have a problem with porn. I'm not drawn to it but wont balk at the suggestion. 5 minutes in and im more interested in jumping my man than what's on the screen. it's not the norm in my relationship. Im not sure if my current man and I have ever watched it together, I dont think so.
 

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Honestly, if I'm getting laid constantly, I don't feel the need to look at porn and jerk it. However, it has a snowball efeect, the longer I go, the better and more relaxed I feel around the opposite sex.
 

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I stopped watching porn years ago, but tend to ask women about it just to get their take. My date last night said she watched celebrity porn, and the Kim Kardashian video was boring. "She didn't do anything".... Let's hope this bodes well
 

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Had a girl I dated once back in my wild days...she was a total super freak(in public and private)...complete with a board certified Bipolar diagnosis! And yes she was the best sehks I ever had, the stereotype holds true. This girl had a huge box of p0rn videos, toys, and kinky lingerie she kept stuffed in her closet. She got herself off at least once a day and it was always to p0rn. It didn't hurt her desire to have sehks with me.

I sometimes wonder about girls that have a hard time getting off vaginally from a dude, don't masturbate/watch p0rn so they can actually get off klitorally with an orgasm? I never cared enough about this chic to care if she orgasm'd from me or not so couldn't say.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah i gotta stop watching porn myself. But it's hard to do at 17 haha. The issue is, women just are not nearly as hot as they are in porn and they don't have sex the same way they do in porn either. I had to learn that one myself lol. It stopped me from getting hard because I was just not physically attracted to any of the woman's bodies. In reality though, women can DEFINITELY do a lot better. They spend hours shopping for new clothes trying to see which looks best on them to the very slightest nuance. I know a girl who looks really hot when you first see her. But when she took off her clothes, she looked like a potato with limbs. Disgusting. She couldn't even arch her back backwards. Like that **** turned me off man. But I guess that's just how over 99% of women look like in America I suppose. It absolutely sucks because I have a very chiseled physique myself and it isn't completely noticeable until they see me naked, and this chick seemed to think that it was normal for guys to look like me. Like wtf, very few guys are actually in shape. Funny thing is though, she took no appreciation towards physical fitness, but expected all guys to look good themselves and be fit despite her looking like a potato. Disgusting. This is why I refused to act on the vast majority of IOIs because women just don't look nearly as good as I do. If I try to look good, then they should too. It absolutely sucks. The chicks that are really hot though and have a nice body only want superstar type guys. It is so dumb.
yea ive come across this in the UK too , chicks getting like 250 - 300 likes on a selfie but in reality she is in absolute garbage shape

the last girl i was seeing had an a$$ like a little boy (no joke) her legs had zero definition to them and her boobs were small i swear she used to wear bra's with 6-7 inchs of padding in them

yet she assumed her looks and attitude alone would be enough to keep me in check

things didnt last long between us
 

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I can't picture a woman watching porn. What do they get out of it?
Eye candy in the form of well built and hung men.

Sadly, not masturbating and not watching porn don't bring chicks any closer to you.
 

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I think a man should use porn to his advantage. For example, for a guy who has a very high sex drive and can't find a suitable woman to hit at the specific time (during a sexual slump) he should use the porn to calm down his sex drive so then he won't act so desperate to get poon, and he thus might actually be able to get it. Also, for a guy who might tend to be quick to finish or if he just wants to last extra long some night, slapping the duck to some porn a few hours before having sex will help make him last longer with the woman.

Nothing wrong with porn at all. Just do not overdo it. I think it should be a casual habit like drinking. Oh.. And don't get your computer infected with a virus from it if you watch it online. There is some nasty malware you can get now-a-days. If I charged all of the guys I know who I have cleaned malware for so they didn't get beaten by their wives, I could retire now.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've had more than one woman tell me that they get off on guy-on-guy gay porn. There was a research piece done off of data gathered from xhamster.com Straight people watch gay porn; gay people watch straight porn. You would think that the porn someone enjoys is predictive of their sexual orientation, but that is not the case. Most people's sex life is in two separate worlds - one of fantasy and one of reality; they are rarely identical.
 

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fun fact, the most popular type of porn with women is lesbian porn.

draw from that, whatever conclusions you'd like.
 

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I watched porn with my ex a couple times. She enjoyed the 3 some videos, and it's also how I discovered her feet fetish. ****ing to porn is fun and different. We never made a habit out of it, and it was mostly my idea anyway, but we were able to scratch it off the bucket list.
 

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fun fact, the most popular type of porn with women is lesbian porn.

draw from that, whatever conclusions you'd like.
Funny you say that because that's exactly what she likes. I've found that emulating certain things from what she watches works wonders.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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