"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonJuan11

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I can't get turned on by a girl unless she looks really hot, has a tight body and is ready to go on a dime's notice. My ex-ex wanted to sleep with me but I said no because she was terrible as kissing and her body left much to be desired (fairly thin with small boobs).

Does watching porn turn guys off sex? I think I'm expecting a Sharon Stone Basic Instinct personality everytime.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DonJuan11 said:
I can't get turned on by a girl unless she looks really hot, has a tight body and is ready to go on a dime's notice. My ex-ex wanted to sleep with me but I said no because she was terrible as kissing and her body left much to be desired (fairly thin with small boobs).

Does watching porn turn guys off sex? I think I'm expecting a Sharon Stone Basic Instinct personality everytime.
I got the same problem.

My advice is to quit looking at porn for a while and to stop wanking it.
 

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There sure seems to be two camps around here, those that think porn/masturbating can screw you up to a certain extent, and those who laugh and say watch what you want, and wank all you want, and I guess the answer is that for some it does affect negatively, and for others it has no effect at all.
So in the end, I guess it's all about the individual.
My opinion....everything in moderation. I'd prefer to wank a LOT less.
 

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I've been meaning to write a blog post about this for some time now and have been doing a lot of research on the topic, but from what I've gathered so far, watching porn and masturbation on a consistent basis, where it is pretty much an addiction, is highly likely to have a negative effect on your ability to attract women.

Firstly, when you ejaculate, testosterone is lowered, you lose some of your sex drive and your body is depleted of energy.

Testosterone is the hormone that makes us men, gives us manly like characteristics and makes us want to stick our penis into a vagina. When we are releasing that testosterone through masturbation, then we are losing our motivation to seek out and attract women in which we can ejaculate through sexual intercourse.

Ejaculation through masturbation is a reinforcing habit, an addiction. It feels good when we ejaculate and thus it creates a positive reinforcement to whatever it is that made us ejaculate in the first place. Thus when we masturbate on a regular basis than a habit of masturbation forms, rather than a habit of seeking out women to have intercourse with.

In conclusion, if you masturbate to porn in moderation, say once a week, than it probably isn't much of an issue for you. If you masturbate at least every day then it's clear you've formed a habit of masturbating and is quite possibly affecting your ability to attract women.

Edit: I got carried away discussing masturbation that I forgot to apply it to the OP's original post -

Watching porn and masturbating to it reinforces your attraction to the porn star look and will cause you to become less attracted to more average looking women like your thin small breasted ex. Perhaps try quitting porn for a few weeks and then see if you still have an attraction to your ex?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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don't watch porn, don't masturbate, I've had the same problem and after a few days of no porn and masturbation I was fine.
 

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How come the guys that disagree with the concept that porn and masturbation can be damaging to your social health, usually tend to post short, one sentence, smart-ass replies that end in "LOL," or ":crackup:" ?

Don't they have anything deeper to say?
 

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Once I stopped wanking it so much I was getting out there and busting my ass attracting women.

If I don't get off for a week and FINALLY get down with a girl my drive is insane and I feel like a real man afterwards. I dunno, if I wanked it that morning or something it just isn't the same and my head just isn't into sex?

I watch porn everyday on my comp, but I don't wank to it anymore lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PrinceBeavis said:
How come the guys that disagree with the concept that porn and masturbation can be damaging to your social health, usually tend to post short, one sentence, smart-ass replies that end in "LOL," or ":crackup:" ?

Don't they have anything deeper to say?
They have a date with a real girl and have to get out the door or be late.
 

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bigjohnson said:
They have a date with a real girl and have to get out the door or be late.
haahah... lol... so true....


But anything in excess can be damaging to your health... porn is fun and can help you be better at sex if you combine it with healthy frequent doses of the real thing.... LOL
 

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I agree...I stopped watching "Porn," BUT I did not go cold turkey. I wach a little bit or look at some pics of my girls pvssy and get hard and when I feel like I need to pop I stop and relax....I think it's helped make me last longer then normally so I keep doing that. I also take some Stamina RX but heard bad things and good things about it so I might stop taking it.

But I agree if you wanna wank then just go for it , just dont take it overboard and do it all day! I say dont wank from Monday-Friday....go out and dj Sat-Sund and see if there is any difference then when you wank right before you go out.

But the thing about cvmming and then not wanting to do anything doesnt apply to me I think...well not entierly, I usually jerk it then pop but then I start to work out or run for awhile. I feel tired only when I like cvm my whole load which doesnt happen unless it's a women ....only weird thing is when you cvm 2 times and your butt hurts...that freak me out lol.
 

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bigjohnson said:
They have a date with a real girl and have to get out the door or be late.
That, or they're 16 years old, and don't have a vocabulary, or a clue.

...Probably the same guys who think masturbating into a fleshlight is "just like fvcking a real woman.":crackup:
 

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That, or they're 16 years old, and don't have a vocabulary, or a clue.

...Probably the same guys who think masturbating into a fleshlight is "just like fvcking a real woman.":crackup:
lol ouch!! well i'm 16 and i have a vocabulary and a clue. and i don't think it's cuz they lack depth in their response abilities, it's because they are fun loving happy people. someone that jerks off a lot is obviously gonna be less uptight than someone who's got all their juices boiling over.... gross. lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AHHHH!! I'm uptight and my juices are boiling over!!! YAHHHHH!!!:nervous: :eek: :mad: :crazy:
 

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What the hell is wrong with that?
Dude we are talking thin, thin. Not good thin. I had a feeling if we had sex she would just lie there and be thinking "get it over with" which would suck.

You want the girl to be excited, to put some effort into it. That's why I think porn is so popular, the girls seem to like it alot more. You never see the girl just lying there.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Dude we are talking thin, thin. Not good thin. I had a feeling if we had sex she would just lie there and be thinking "get it over with" which would suck.

You want the girl to be excited, to put some effort into it. That's why I think porn is so popular, the girls seem to like it alot more. You never see the girl just lying there.
Gotta train those b!tches!!! :yes:

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P.S. my girlfriend didn't care for sex and would just lie there until I started to get with her and last for an hour or two. Now she is a sex fiend.
 

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After a few days without porn, I start having dreams about women. The dreams are much more vivid and real, and I'm in them, not someone else. It ends up being more entertaining than porn.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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