rick6599
Don Juan
This girl in a local cofeeshop is super popular - but NO boyfriend or a man. Probably no action in bed at all. Last week I made "info" approach - I think this week I just press her directly for a date....comments?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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rick6599
Don Juan
I will either take her number, or invite her or something after her work - the chance is she would brush off, but that won't stop me from trying again...
squirrels
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Don't shoot yourself in the foot. Maybe she's so good looking that guys are intimidated to approach her. You've got something she wants.
If you approach her and are even SLIGHTLY intimidated by her popularity, she'll sense that you feel you're not worthy and blow you off...or use you until she gets someone MORE popular to ask her out. Popularity is relative. Be secure in yourself and just talk to her. And don't let a popular girl's opinion or reaction to you bring your OWN esteem down.
If you approach her and are even SLIGHTLY intimidated by her popularity, she'll sense that you feel you're not worthy and blow you off...or use you until she gets someone MORE popular to ask her out. Popularity is relative. Be secure in yourself and just talk to her. And don't let a popular girl's opinion or reaction to you bring your OWN esteem down.
I agree with squirrels when he says "Popularity is relative". It's your own perception of her. Maybe some other guy thinks she's a clown, another guy things she's just out for attention, and yet another doesn't think anything about her. Don't let your own assumptions throw yourself off.
As far as the "If she blows me off, that won't stop me from trying again"...you sound like a stalker. Go in there, talk to her, see what happens. If she's not interested, respect that. Then maybe you can chat with her here and there when you come into the coffee shop and see if something develops after she gets to see you more often.
As far as the "If she blows me off, that won't stop me from trying again"...you sound like a stalker. Go in there, talk to her, see what happens. If she's not interested, respect that. Then maybe you can chat with her here and there when you come into the coffee shop and see if something develops after she gets to see you more often.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rick6599
Don Juan
I have already done this - sort of tactful approach, to see whats going on, once I asked her to leave some promo material there, and we got into interesting conversation - actually I am planning to invite her somewhere, this will probably be important, because she will either come or not...