Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I doordashed a few years back and I cannot understand why any able bodied person would do it.Uber Eats, DoorDash etc. All they do is create more lazy people. Go pick up your own food! I don’t even get pizza delivered. You save so much money by not having to tip and pay a delivery fee.
The only people that like travelling for work either have a job that lets them do gods knows what or has no life/hates their life at home and uses it as an escapism.I’m guessing you’ve never traveled for work to understand how awesome it is![]()
I agree. It's absurdly expensive and it only further promotes our asinine tipping culture since if you don't tip at least 20% you either won't get deliveries or it'll be cold food that was farted and pissed on.Uber Eats, DoorDash etc. All they do is create more lazy people. Go pick up your own food! I don’t even get pizza delivered. You save so much money by not having to tip and pay a delivery fee.
I LOVE work travel. I’m sent solo. My non-work time is my own. When I was single, I used Tinder to meet local girls. I Uber out of the hotel & go downtown. The only downside, the towns in NoCal , outside of they Bay Area aren’t super happening and it’s midweek. And the weather is often cold or rainy.1). Tex Mex Cuisine- A lot of it here is price gauged and it is just a bunch of mediocre quality meat smothered in cheese, beans, and carbs.
2). Weddings- Expensive, planning the wedding sucks, and it is all for one night.
3). 5-star Hotels- Overpriced and always trying to rob you for any nickel & dime, and I don't vacation to spend most of my time in the hotel
4). Spinning plates- The novelty goes away after you realize that you can get laid
Exhilarating but exhausting. And the plates are constantly trying to get you to commit. Not sustainable long term. Though I miss it.
5). Just buying a house to say you are a homeowner and to gloat...Hell, doing anything to brag to your friends or the internet about.
6). Travelling for work- People seem to think that work travel is just a work paid vacation when it is actually more work, prolonged forced contact with your coworkers, crappy happy hours & food, and trapped in a hotel.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
My ex- two iterations ago was a PB fanatic. My gym now has PB events.Weddings, home ownership, and travelling for work are all overrated. You've accurately described all of those.
I'll add pet ownership and pickleball as overrated. The pickleball fad is a joke to me. I am a long time tennis player. Tennis players and pickeball players do not like each other.
Spectator sports are also overrated.
I’m in the first category.The only people that like travelling for work either have a job that lets them do gods knows what or has no life/hates their life at home and uses it as an escapism.
DD was useful here in the BayArea during Covid. Now. Maybe once a year.I doordashed a few years back and I cannot understand why any able bodied person would do it.
1). It is expensive.
2). The person delivering your food could be some random person with no ties to an organization and zero skill in food handling & delivery. I delivered pizza in high school and college, so I do have prior delivery experience.