"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pool FR (didnt go as planned)

619joe

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Well me and a few buddies hit up the local pool like we always do and immediatly I see 2 girls tanning on the grass.Showoffs like we are,we just get within a close distant and do some soccer tricks just to show off a bit :cool: I mean it doesnt hurt lol.Ive had sucess without using the 3 second rule by letting the girls get a look at me and seeing whats coming up later in their life ;) .They LOOKED like HB8.5's (keyword "looked")

So later on we go into the pool and they follow.Me and my buddies again just throw the ball around whole pool just being **** disturbers.We were thinking of going to talk to them but we were having fun within our own group so we decided to wait.My friend does the whole "throw the ball at them accidently and ask for it back" he does it sucessfully but doesnt follow up.Oh well.

Later Im on the deck of pool throwing our small soccer ball hard at my buddy but this is where the problem arises.I over-throw, it ends up HITTING THE GIRL WHO IS LAYING ON THE BOARD (the hotter of the two).It was an accident and yes I felt bad but I went up and was apologizing.****s yes I know we are but I had a gut feeling they liked my looks at least and were willing to calm down.BTW the girl who got hit was quiet and not spazzing out at me at all,her friend was yelling at my buddy mostly.

They flipped out completely..Saying stuff like "You guys are retards blah blah go do that on the grass.Ya say what you wanna say ass holes".

They dont even wanna hear an apology so I just said to my buddy "Daniel just leave these girls,I mean there not even accepting our apology and they dont seem like fun anyways.They looked cute at first but I changed my mind about them".Afterwards,my friend ends up buying them two popsicles to "make it up to them".It wasnt my idea and I disagreed but he did it.After I see him talking with the girls for 2 minutes ,I thought "w.e ill go see whats going on now.

As I approach them I say "haha listen it seems we must have gotten off on the wrong foot here".She goes on saying shes completley sorry for spazzing out and what not and they seemed interested and were laughing at everything.I even joked and asked her "so be honest i must have hit the ball hard as hell?".Again they say "no no it was nothing we over reacted".

Heres where I got completely turned off...First of all they were smoking which I didnt like AT ALL.One of the girls had alot of acne (I had some before too but this was alot for a girl) also due to the fact that she was in the "bad kids" program at our school and already graduated.Onto the hotter one,again she just seemed really trashy and had too many piercings and just seemed dirty haha (both were blonde and LOOKED hot at first).They end up saying stuff like "sooo you guys blaze and drink alot" and I just went along with it. then parted it with them saying we should chill at the pool again sometime.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nmartinez12443

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Sorry but I don't think those girls did anything wrong. IF some azz-clown hits me with a soccer ball (that would hurt small or not) , I am going to be pissed. They could have been way worse.
 

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I know they didnt do anything wrong.Im just kinda showing how easy it is to bounce back from a terrible mishap.I mean buying a drink is expensive but this was just two popsicles not even more than like 2 dollars which sorta helped in easing it out.

Although I did social proof with the girls in our group by like joking around with them a bit so Im sure that helped a bit but also to mention I was 100% sure they were attracted to me physically.So ya it just goes to show that it is possible to make a come back from the girl being completely pissed off.
 

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I actually think hitting them with the ball intentionally (though not known to them to be intentional) might be a decent strategy.
 

619joe

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^ Afterwards I had said to them "so throwing the ball was a good strategy eh?" ...there like "yeah hahaa" then I said "see I had to think up of a way to get your attention.Im not the sort of guy who just goes up and say HI,I like to go original". They were laughing at that alot and agreed that it was interesting lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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