leftForDeadPhoenix
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Pook has put up another good post on his blog: Live In The Talent
His writing just keeps getting better. Keep it up Pook.
His writing just keeps getting better. Keep it up Pook.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Technical1
Senior Don Juan
When I read B.S. like that last post on Pook's Mill, I ask myself the exact same question.Gaucho said:
Desdinova
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Ever since Pook entered into the whole "I hate feminism" phase of his life, I can't help but wonder if he has become sexually inactive. Anyone with that much hate for a female movement is bound to become bitter toward women.
Yes, feminism has fvcked up a lot of things in society, but most women are NOT feminists. A masculine man will cause a woman to be more feminine, and a feminine woman is a beautiful woman.
We may not be able to single-handedly reverse what feminism has done to society, but we can find enjoyment in the beauty of a woman.
Yes, feminism has fvcked up a lot of things in society, but most women are NOT feminists. A masculine man will cause a woman to be more feminine, and a feminine woman is a beautiful woman.
We may not be able to single-handedly reverse what feminism has done to society, but we can find enjoyment in the beauty of a woman.
I always wonder where people see hate and bitterness in pooks posts. Yes, they tend to be very rethorical and deep but I can't see hate. He said that it's an anti-feminism block but he never said all women are feminists or anythuing like this. In fact, in one of his recent posts ( Purpose of life is to win, not to survive) he talk about the DJ seeing getting women as fun and exciting. I can't see how that is negative, DJ=pooks mindset so HE sees getting women as fun and exciting. He once said that sometimes it can become to much and take too much of his time but other than that I think he is still sexual active.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
leftForDeadPhoenix
Don Juan
Uh, lately Pook hasn't been hating on women. He's going the other way in fact. You need to read his latest.
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Pook never turned hateful towards women.
Just critical of the destructive effects of a women's movement that in addition to doing a lot of good may of quite possibly done a lot more bad.
He evolved in his thinking.
He gave us the positive care free message on Sosuave and now he has moved on to deeper subjects.
Wanting him to return to Sosuave form is wanting him to live in the past rather than where he is at and moving forward to now.
The poster who said that sometimes people here and elsewhere get the crabs in the barrel mentality and try to pull others down was correct.
Fortunately that mentality will never be mine.
Keep moving forward and evolving Pookster.
Just critical of the destructive effects of a women's movement that in addition to doing a lot of good may of quite possibly done a lot more bad.
He evolved in his thinking.
He gave us the positive care free message on Sosuave and now he has moved on to deeper subjects.
Wanting him to return to Sosuave form is wanting him to live in the past rather than where he is at and moving forward to now.
The poster who said that sometimes people here and elsewhere get the crabs in the barrel mentality and try to pull others down was correct.
Fortunately that mentality will never be mine.
Keep moving forward and evolving Pookster.
I am in no ways bringing Pook down, whatever floats your boat. But if you want inspirational writing, you can go into your local book store, or search all over the internet, it is everywhere, people have been simply writing about it for thousands of years.
Or you can just look around you and see people who are so successful and happy, they don't need to write about it, they lead by example.
I take nothing from such rhetoric, I look at those doing what they love and with a smile on their face, who are kind to everybody and open in their advice, and respect them. A guy who hides behind fancy words and gives advice without prooving a thing, is just another run of the 'mill', 'artist' IMHO.
Nevertheless, his writing is well respected amongst the sosuave community and seems to have hit home for quiet a few, so good on him in that aspect!
Or you can just look around you and see people who are so successful and happy, they don't need to write about it, they lead by example.
I take nothing from such rhetoric, I look at those doing what they love and with a smile on their face, who are kind to everybody and open in their advice, and respect them. A guy who hides behind fancy words and gives advice without prooving a thing, is just another run of the 'mill', 'artist' IMHO.
Nevertheless, his writing is well respected amongst the sosuave community and seems to have hit home for quiet a few, so good on him in that aspect!
Technical1
Senior Don Juan
I guess its cool if you want to preserve Pook's memory and image or whatever.... but "Just live in the talent"?
live....in the talent?
what-ever.
EDIT: I mean to say with this inspirational stuff it gets to a point where nobody knows what the author is exactly talking about anymore but nobody cares because he is "inspired" "enlightened" and hey, inspirational messages are ALWAYS good, de facto and de jure. (I actually dont know what the second expressions means lol).
An inspirational message has to be targeted to its audience like any other peice of writing. You can excuse Pook on the basis that he's on a higher level than someone like myself, but then who is this spiritual elite that is reading Pook's work and finding truth in the mantra "Live in the talent?"
So I guess I just have to accept that Pook is over my head, and that the reason his writing makes no sense to me anymore is because I havent reached his level. Well, if that were the case he could be a little more cryptic and esoteric rather than speaking in tones which seem open to be understood by everyman. Because he still writes like an inspiration for the man in the street except it doesnt make sense anymore. Live in the talent? Sex and man's striving form an ellipse?
live....in the talent?
what-ever.
EDIT: I mean to say with this inspirational stuff it gets to a point where nobody knows what the author is exactly talking about anymore but nobody cares because he is "inspired" "enlightened" and hey, inspirational messages are ALWAYS good, de facto and de jure. (I actually dont know what the second expressions means lol).
An inspirational message has to be targeted to its audience like any other peice of writing. You can excuse Pook on the basis that he's on a higher level than someone like myself, but then who is this spiritual elite that is reading Pook's work and finding truth in the mantra "Live in the talent?"
So I guess I just have to accept that Pook is over my head, and that the reason his writing makes no sense to me anymore is because I havent reached his level. Well, if that were the case he could be a little more cryptic and esoteric rather than speaking in tones which seem open to be understood by everyman. Because he still writes like an inspiration for the man in the street except it doesnt make sense anymore. Live in the talent? Sex and man's striving form an ellipse?
leftForDeadPhoenix
Don Juan
I dunno, for me it's not really hard to understand. It's about using your sexual energy to accomplish greatness. It's not a new theory. It's more about accepting that reality of yourself instead of using your sexual energy for merely pleasure alone. I think it's a good observation on human nature that a lot of modern men miss.Technical1 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.