Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Real Seduction Versus Wimp Seduction
It is time for a pop quiz. What, sirs, is the definition of the term 'Wimp'? What does it stand for?
"One who doesn't score with women."
"Someone who isn't macho."
"The lack of coolness."
All these are good, gentlemen, yes. Yet, they are all wrong. I will give you a better explanation of the word 'Wimp'.
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A wimp is a male who has no soul. In fact, he looks to others, especially women, to influence how he acts. Wimps can easily 'score' with women because anyone can re-write themselves to be what women want. Anyone can paraphrase a woman's thoughts back to herself. And anyone can read from a script. Being so influenced shows you have no BALLS.
The big problem of Speed Seduction (or should I call it 'Nerd Seduction'?) is that it is Wimp Seduction. You seduce not in a matter of strength, of who you are, but of painting yourself in woman's eyes to be what she wants. You paraphrase her thoughts back to her. You analyze what she does and write lengthy internet reports on it. Or worse, you try to *connect* and pretty much do whatever to please her. The difference between the Nice Guy and the Wimp Seducer is that of tactics. Both are just as female influenced. "But what does it matter, Pook? The Wimp Seduction gets us girls. That is all that matters." Yeah, but keep that up and you'll be driven to despair and near suicide, as many of such 'seducers' have illustrated. If you have to trade your soul for sex, then you are doing anything BUT 'scoring'.
Real Seduction is just going up to her and doing it YOUR way. She says, "No, no..." but her eyes are saying, "Yes, yes..." You assume she wants it because you know Nature wants her to want it. In the end, you'll get her. You don't pretend to be a clown. You don't read from a script. You don't wear make-up. Women are attracted to male desire.
"But I thought having desire was bad." No, being ***** whipped is bad. Most guys' desire turns them into a wimp. Look them in the eye. They know what you want. They can *feel* it. Don't be chicken about it.
"But she might reject me! Boo hoo!" Stop sobbing as I don't want to mop up this post with all your womanly tears. The question is not whether she will reject you or not. The question is whether YOU want her or not. If she says no and you still want her, try it again. Why give her so much power over who you should desire? Women LOVE being desired. But they DETEST wimps.
Let me give you an example from literature (groans come out from everywhere). Silence fools! Nothing art wise endures for centuries unless it relects Nature somehow. Here is my chosen example:
In the second scene of the first Act of Shakespeare's King Richard III, Richard III (at his gloucester status) has arranged the killing of King Henry VI. He interrupts his funeral procession to woo his widow, the Lady Anne. So aside from Richard being an ugly hunchback, he killed the King, her husband. This, obviously, is going to be an uphill battle for his seduction.
She screams at him, "Blush, blush, thou lump of foul deformity!" Most guys would take the hint. She goes on to call Richard a devil, a toad, a diffused infection of a man, a hedgehog, a homicide, and a dissembler, and then spits in his face and tells him to hang himself. Yes, the signs of disinterest are hard to miss.
Richard doesn't run away or make posts on the internet how 'hurt' he was. He ignores all the foul stuff she says and pours on the the sweet-talk. Eventually, she becomes his wife. This scene is very electric, makes for very good theater, and is a challenge to act it (I've tried it on stage). But the real challenge is for the girl who plays Lady Anne who must be disgusted but yet interested. A very entertaining scene to watch as well.
"But Richard is a foul villian, Pook!" Of course. But so are many seducers. You can have a crappy car and be homeless yet be a master of women. You can be ugly, be a toad, and still be able to get the girl. The point is that you act on your desires, rather than react to hers. You be who you are. You improve yourself, yes, but only towards your vision and goal of yourself. You don't improve yourself so you become more of an ornament to attract women. That is the female influenced way. That is the Wimp Way.
Seduction from your influence, rather than manipulating yourself to fit her influence, is not only more satisfactory seduction, it is mentally healthier. You won't be driven to suicide because you'll be acting on your soul rather than denying it for female affection.
posted by Pook at 12:35 AM
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wow that post by Pook was really, really greatjtrain 289 said:Here's another post from the pookmister all so change women to worlds to and it still makes 100% sense
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"spitting game" is just a general, loosely used phrase which pretty much means the same thing as flirting with a girl, hitting on a girl, trying to get with a girl, etc (including all the stuff you mentioned like being calm, cool etc). I just use it because imo its easy to use. "Throw some game at her" is easier to say and incorporates all the "seduction stuff" rather than be more specific like "Hit on that girl, or try to get with that girl". Like I said its just my opinion and I enjoy using it.Black Dog said:See.....real seduction is about being articulate, cool and calm knowing your sh*t.....not this weak ghetto "spitting game" I see everywhere in HS....
You may see it like that, but spitting game to me is a much more primitive form of Game itself....if I'm so lame as to break it down but.....if a guys got Mac then yea he's hot enough confidence to say what he's feeling towards a female; this doesn't mean that he's smart enough to even know what he's saying or can pick up signals from a girl.....when my friends describe Spitting Game to me it always just comes out as "confidence" being the biggest thing....dont be afraid to speak your mind. I don't listen though I know confidence is just the tip of the icebergeaglez1177 said:"spitting game" is just a general, loosely used phrase which pretty much means the same thing as flirting with a girl, hitting on a girl, trying to get with a girl, etc (including all the stuff you mentioned like being calm, cool etc). I just use it because imo its easy to use. "Throw some game at her" is easier to say and incorporates all the "seduction stuff" rather than be more specific like "Hit on that girl, or try to get with that girl". Like I said its just my opinion and I enjoy using it.
That's what I heard. Something to do with his little sister or something. I don't know...it was a while ago.Amazing said:last post in 2008, I am guessing pookster is in jail
Can you elaborate, please?That guy is a genius.YogurtSlinger said:That's what I heard. Something to do with his little sister or something. I don't know...it was a while ago.
Hmm, well in that case I guess its just all about how you interpret the term lol.Black Dog said:You may see it like that, but spitting game to me is a much more primitive form of Game itself....if I'm so lame as to break it down but.....if a guys got Mac then yea he's hot enough confidence to say what he's feeling towards a female; this doesn't mean that he's smart enough to even know what he's saying or can pick up signals from a girl.....when my friends describe Spitting Game to me it always just comes out as "confidence" being the biggest thing....dont be afraid to speak your mind. I don't listen though I know confidence is just the tip of the iceberg
Spitting game Eagle, like you said is just another loose term for flirting but when I hear it used its used pretty ignorantly....idk just what I've seen
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.