Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pook was right.

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It's way better to try and fail than to sit there and not take any action and regret it.

I was at a football game last night. It was the first game of the year. We were playing our rival school and it was a home game, we got our asses completely demolished.. but that was besides the point. There was hotties everywhere. I was with my buddies, both single. A lot of them have a lot of success with woman, but they never approach any girls. I don't know how they do it. They like befriend girls through other friends and go that route.. while I kind of like to approach girls. There was two hotties and I wanted one of them to go with me, I even told them I would open the set and everything, but they were both being pussies and it was making me mad. I started walking over there getting a little closer, and the guys followed me as if they were gonna watch me the whole time, I was like wtf are you doing are you coming or not? Eventually we were practically right next to the girls, we were in our conversation and there were in theres, I was about to approch until suddenly I froze up. I looked at them and couldn't think of anything to say. So we started walking away. I felt like ****. I couldn't believe I didn't say anything. I was running through things to say in my mind and the only thing I could think of was compliments or something stupid like "You go to.. so and so school " I knew if I opened with that the conversation would go stale so I just aborted, and I felt like ****! Anyway, we started walking away and we're like 10 yards away and they start eye****ing us, and I'm like just like ****, come on guys let's go talk to them. After that first failure I was determined to make it happen this time, but then they started walking towards us. You know how girls do when they're eye****ing you, they walk right by you a million times trying to get your attention.. anyway, as they walked by I just said hello and gave them wave. All I got was an akward look and a wave/half smile back. Maybe they thought it was unexpected. I really don't know where I'm getting with this. I don't conider this an approach at all. I wish I did approach them. I would had rather crashed and burned then hesitated so ****ing long just to say a "hello" and look like a dumbass.

Oh well, there's a ton of other fish in the sea.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I honestly don't see what the deal is. "Approaching" a girl is essentially no more than a friendly interaction. If she seems friendly after you greet her, then you get the chance to establish rapport -- or simply qualify her -- as well as tease/joke with her, and #-close. It's those last parts that are sometimes hard. (The #-closing is what i'm working on the most. I have trouble maintaining good eye contact and tonality sometimes when I do it)

Just saying hi to the girl in the first place and TRYING to talk to her is the easy part. If she won't talk back, it's hardly even a rejection. More than anything, it just means she's not very friendly. If she got to know you before turning you down, that would be a rejection.
 
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