Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pondering over going on a first ever date, its upto me, help me guys..

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as it stands, I click almost perfectly with her, and we even picked a restaurant where I'd take her, but my sticking points are dragging me down..

Sticking point
#1) She's black, and I'm south Indian

#3) She's around HB7, she's what you call intelligent girl, with great personality..

#2) She's new in town

#3) I never went out on a date before

#4) I Never kissed before

#5) I don't know how to act, this is new for me.

#6) Should I plan something after dinner, or is just having dinner alright?

Any tips will be greatly appreciated guys..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Race don't matter unless your in the deep south :D

Hell yah you should go, time to get this behind you! Have a couple of drinks, calm down and talk. If you want to continue the date after make a plan and stick to it, coffee...walk...whatever...don't just come up with it off the top of your head.

Good luck man
 

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Yeah Race doesn't matter. Dude it sounds like you would have alot of fun. For something like this i would like to think of one of my favorite quotes.
"You never know untill you try."


Whatever you were doing when you were with her. You did right obviously , so do that. As for kissing , you'll know. It's something you feel and flow with. Just have fun. Best advice i think anyone can give you.

Go for it dude!!!
 

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Blah, dinner dates...

Don't be boring. Dinner dates can get boring very easily. In fact, if you can, screw the dinner date and go do something fun. Any action date is perfect for a first date.

If you stick with the dinner idea, then there isn't a whole lot we can say that'll do you much good. Its really gonna be carried by who you are and how you act. Let's hope you're a fun person.

Avoid controversial topics, like religion or politics. You aren't out with her to debate. You want to get to know each other better, to see if you're really interested.

Don't psyche yourself out by thinking things like "Does she like me? Is she having fun?". That isn't your concern. Only worry about if YOU are having fun. Most likely, if you are enjoying yourself, she will feed off that and follow you. Besides, she agreed to go out with you, right? She's on the date with you, right? She must like you, or else she wouldn't have come.

You have to flirt. You have to. Don't, and you'll just be friends forever. If you flirt and she reciprocates, you're in. If she seems kind of put off or doesn't say anything, back off a bit and try again a little later.
 

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Thing Is I met her where they serve vegetarian food, so she's vegetarian and

Ace of Flames said:
Blah, dinner dates...

Don't be boring. Dinner dates can get boring very easily. In fact, if you can, screw the dinner date and go do something fun. Any action date is perfect for a first date.

If you stick with the dinner idea, then there isn't a whole lot we can say that'll do you much good. Its really gonna be carried by who you are and how you act. Let's hope you're a fun person.

Avoid controversial topics, like religion or politics. You aren't out with her to debate. You want to get to know each other better, to see if you're really interested.

Don't psyche yourself out by thinking things like "Does she like me? Is she having fun?". That isn't your concern. Only worry about if YOU are having fun. Most likely, if you are enjoying yourself, she will feed off that and follow you. Besides, she agreed to go out with you, right? She's on the date with you, right? She must like you, or else she wouldn't have come.

You have to flirt. You have to. Don't, and you'll just be friends forever. If you flirt and she reciprocates, you're in. If she seems kind of put off or doesn't say anything, back off a bit and try again a little later.

she has a lot of interests in Indian culture, and I know this very good Indian vegetarian restaurant which would be perfect to start out positive interaction, I will probably think about other things as I get to know her more.

But as it stands she's excited to come to this restaurant, so its a good start from the beginning..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Canadien said:
she has a lot of interests in Indian culture, and I know this very good Indian vegetarian restaurant which would be perfect to start out positive interaction, I will probably think about other things as I get to know her more.

But as it stands she's excited to come to this restaurant, so its a good start from the beginning..
Well... if the restaurant itself is of special interest, i.e. not just some place to eat, then... I guess it could serve as a good date location. You can tell her about the different foods and stuff of your culture, you can order for her... its good. Go for it man!
 
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You're 25 and never kissed a girl??? I say you need to call 911 emergency!!

Black women are easy to get along with - they are very welcoming and open to other races, considering that they ave been under the yoke of oppression and degradation for centuries!! They are free spirits and tend to have beautiful bodies!!!!!!!!

She is new in town and thus very impressionable!!! You lead and she will follow!! If the date goes well then immediately ask her to do another function!!
 
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