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[the_m@n]

Ok guys. Here's the story... I've know this woman for a long time (10+ years) we started hanging out more frequently this past year because we realized we share many common interests. She's quiet, shy, reserved and doesn't drink but she's beautiful and can hold a great conversation with me.

a month or so ago we went snowboarding together, the following weekend we watched the superbowl at her place with her friends and family, I took her out to dinner on Valentines day and she is coming over my place for dinner this Friday. I fear I've fallen into the friend zone or that I'm simply making up in my mind that there is something more to our relationship then just friendship.

Every time we hang out she texts or emails me the very next morning about how wonderful of a time she had with me. I'm taking these as positive signals that she is interested but I am unsure of misinterpreting them for friendly "thank yous". I've been cautious about making a move or trying to kiss her because I don't want to come up looking like a dummy and ruin a budding close friendship.

What should I do? I haven't had any moments where I felt a kiss was right.

 

[f283000]

You are not making any sense and i'll show you why right now

I fear I've fallen into the friend zone or that I'm simply making up in my mind that there is something more to our relationship then just friendship.

So you fear you fell into the friend zone by your own admission BUT THEN YOU SAY THIS

I've been cautious about making a move or trying to kiss her because I don't want to come up looking like a dummy and ruin a budding close friendship.

WELL DUHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

How can YOU NOT fall into the friend zone if you haven't made any sexual advances with this poor gal?

The good news is that you are not in the friend zone YET. She agreed to have dinner with you by yourself at your place. No woman agrees to go to a man's place to be alone with him without knowing the possible repercussions (secks, romance).

Remember though that women want secks and romance too. If she has gone out with you all these times is because she finds you attractive. But unless you're Brad Pitt she will not wait forever for you to pull the trigger and make a move. Women want a man of action as a lover not a non-sexual nice guy.

So unless you're prepared to stay her "buddy" forever you need to start escalating with her ASAP. The more you spend time with her and not kissing her the more you get sucked into the friend zone.


When a woman agrees to go out with you

1. It's because she finds you attractive/interesting or a combination of both
2. She would be open to see "where this can lead" as in a possible relationship
3. She's ready for romance again. Women want romance and action as much as we do.

Just remember the above for next time and try to kiss close by the 2nd or third date. Stop trying to interpret a woman and remember the above. If she goes out with you it's because she's attracted to you. If you were 500 pounds with 2 front teeth would she be going to your apartment to have dinner?

 

[L B]

oh boy, this coming from "the man" from 2005. I can understand if you're new, but come on...

The mentality should be yes she is into you unless her actions prove otherwise. I see a bunch of green lights and your foot is still on the brake.

What's the worst that could happen, she rejects you and you spend your time and effort on someone else more productive???

Tomorrow you go out there.
You set up a date with her.
You go on a date with her.
You create a moment to kiss her. (excuses like not feeling it is for girls).
Then you do other things and then tell her to go home.

 

[countermart]

Ok buddy make her a great dinner on Friday night, including dessert. Be absolutely relaxed and do not care about the outcome. Half way through dessert get up and massage her shoulders saying something like, “You seem a little tense?” She should loosen up and say something like, “Mmm that feels great.” You say something like, “Well it’s all part of my fantastic dessert.” Keep going and as she relaxes gently move around her from the back or tilt her head slightly and kiss her on the mouth. Kiss her again and then if she is happy pull her up to standing and kiss her harder. If you do this right she will never finish dessert.

If she pulls away at the kiss and says, “We’re just friends”, then you have your answer. Case closed. Do not be phased at all, just say something like, “I’m soooo sorry, I thought you ordered the kiss with dessert' and carry on with dinner.

Good luck. Crash or crash through.

Countermart

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Countermart,
This is the way to go,Fortune favours the bold....."If she pulls away at the kiss and says, “We’re just friends”, then you have your answer. Case closed. Do not be phased at all, just say something like, “I’m soooo sorry, I thought you ordered the kiss with dessert' and carry on with dinner." Mate you are one Smooth Bvastard.

 

[PokerStar]

“I’m soooo sorry, I thought you ordered the kiss with dessert'

Countermart

gonna use this one.