Polygamist (Thoughts?)

[EyeBRollin]

First of all, if you haven’t seen the show, it’s a good watch on Netflix.

Feel free to discuss the show or the practice of polygamy in general.

My thoughts as a married man in a monogamous marriage- I have always empathized and held the belief that sexually and biologically, men are not really monogamous. We mostly “act” so out of lack of options and the severe consequences that come with promiscuous extramarital lifestyles.

Regarding modern Western society, “de facto” polygamy does exist among many of our professional athlete with baby mommas. It just shows up in child support payments instead of marriage licenses.

Also the show, and practice makes me think in general that having additional wives just for extra pvssy is insane. Way too much stress, resources, cognitive load, and just effort to have multiple wives. One many is already a lot of emotional maintenance. Try multiple. What really does a guy get out of the arrangement?

 

[BaronOfHair]

In theory, I'm inclined to say: "Go ahead" to all those who wish to live in such a fashion, provided everyone's acting consensually. In practice, I believe there's data out there indicating that societies in which polygamy is rampant have higher rates of STDs and young men who are unusually rambunctious

 

[craider]

Polygamy doesn't work in the west because marriage contracts aren't enforceable. That's why monogomy doesn't work either.

The "polygamy" your speaking of is just rudimentary prostitution. Wealthy men often supported their bastards in times past. Ironically, we've bastardized the institution of marriage to make that support legally guaranteed. If you want to argue that these baby mommas are actually committed wives and should enjoy the protections of a real marriage, that's your hill to die on.

 

[EyeBRollin]

In theory, I'm inclined to say: "Go ahead" to all those who wish to live in such a fashion, provided everyone's acting consensually. In practice, I believe there's data out there indicating that societies in which polygamy is rampant have higher rates of STDs and young men who are unusually rambunctious

This. Though the STD rate may have confounding socioeconomic variables here. Polygamy iirc had more to do with agrarian societies needing more labor, thus bigger patriarchal family structures.

The point about young men being rambunctious though is fact. Monogamous societies allows more men access to creating stable family structures. You don’t want to live in a society where 90% of men can’t get female companionship