poll" what happened in this situation

[joekerr31]

ok guys, let's see what your vote is on this one.

Guy meets woman. they only see each other once a month or so. when they do they flirt and talk for hours. strong connection between the two it would seem.

guy figures all the signs are right and asks the girl out. girl says she "probably" shouldn't because is seeing "someone".

guy lets it go.

circumstance requires the two continue to see each other and exchange emails now and then. over the next couple of months girl continues to flirt excessively. revealing personal information (although never talking about the "someone"). She compliments guy on his looks, how smart he is, how funny he is etc.

guy decides this woman isn't worth the time and is probably an attention ***** and arranges things so he no longer has to have these encounters with her. he's a gentlemen when nexting her.

her response to being nexted is to say that she really values knowing him and to keep in touch.

guy holds to his next and no longer has contact with her.

so the poll is, ultimately happened in this situation....

 

[Jamo]

he's a gentlemen when nexting her. - That might have been the problem - his general attitude with her was like that (niceguy). And he was being a "gentleman" by placing her on a pedestal. This is my 2 cents

 

[Bonhomme]

Cynical, aren't we?

So many "just using him for attention" responses.

"Didn't know what she wants" is most likely, from what I'm reading.

My take is the gal was satisfied with her current boyfriend, but more attracted to the new guy, didn't have the nerve to let go of the "known quantity" for the potentially better "unknown quantity."

His firm but reasonable handling of her further muddied the waters by making him appear more and more like the better choice as she got to see more of his character. Her mind was moving in the direction of the new guy, but the die had been cast.

 

[TheTrimReaper]

I'm curious why they were seeing each other once a month.

Messing around with girls who have boyfriends is a waste of damn time! I know from too many experiences.

Girls take longer than a man to get interested, but it isn't over the course of months. If she likes him, she will be with him quickly. And he will know the deal.

I think there are far too many single women, who want to make a man happy, to waste time propping up some taken woman's ego. And even if the man is able to seduce her, what does that say for her character?

 

[joekerr31]

i completely agree.

they were seeing each other once a month due to business.

but i totally concur on your statement. no matter how strong an attraction may be, a woman who flirts while she has a boyfriend has issues because either

1) she's not getting what she needs from her bf, but doesn't have the courage to end it without something lined up

or

2) she's an AW and sees men as purely sources of boosting her ego.

hence i lean more towards the first option, that she was using the guy simply to boost her ego.

J

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by joekerr31
i completely agree.

they were seeing each other once a month due to business.

but i totally concur on your statement. no matter how strong an attraction may be, a woman who flirts while she has a boyfriend has issues because either

1) she's not getting what she needs from her bf, but doesn't have the courage to end it without something lined up

or

2) she's an AW and sees men as purely sources of boosting her ego.

hence i lean more towards the first option, that she was using the guy simply to boost her ego.

J

Cheating wh0res turn me on... you probably could have boinked her.

 

[Fantasy]

Originally posted by Immaculate
Cheating wh0res turn me on...

Me too.

Sounds like the guy was a d*ck in a glass case awaiting to be broken in an emergency situation that would probably have never arrived.