"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Poll: What condition are your living quarters in?

What Condition Are Your Living Quarters In?

  • Complete mess

    Votes: 10 24.4%

  • Cluttered & disorganized but clean

    Votes: 10 24.4%

  • Neutral "lived-in" look

    Votes: 7 17.1%

  • Neater & cleaner than most guys

    Votes: 11 26.8%

  • Immaculate. Spotless with nothing out-of-place

    Votes: 3 7.3%
  • Total voters
    41
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I'd appreciate as much participation as possible as I'm currently researching the relationship beteen a man's environment (house, apartment or room) and certain aspects of his personality.

I'll expound on it later once all the data is in. I don't want to sway the results by saying too much while the poll is active.

Thanks for weighing in. Results are anonymous. There is absolutely no need to make a post. Just vote if you don't mind. Thanks.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think I know where you're going with this, akin to the 'the state of your environment is a reflection of your personality and your degree of mental organization'. If so, it's a fool's errand. I don't think the two are related. My place is immaculate as you say, but not by my own doing. A few months ago I finally hired a cleaning lady. I just got tired of doing it myself. It's not something a man does. Neither is cooking (I almost never cook).

I can't stand a mess, but that doesn't mean I'm going to clean it myself, especially when a professional can do it quicker, better, and cheaper than myself, freeing up my time to pursue things I actually care about.
 
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muscleman said:
I think I know where you're going with this, akin to the 'the state of your environment is a reflection of your personality and your degree of mental organization'. If so, it's a fool's errand. I don't think the two are related. My place is immaculate as you say, but not by my own doing. A few months ago I finally hired a cleaning lady. I just got tired of doing it myself. It's not something a man does. Neither is cooking (I almost never cook).

I can't stand a mess, but that doesn't mean I'm going to clean it myself, especially when a professional can do it quicker, better, and cheaper than myself, freeing up my time to pursue things I actually care about.
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Your speculation is only a small fraction of what I'm researching. There's a lot more to it than that, which I'll discuss later.
 
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Is there any reason why you have brought this up now???

Is there a kinda seasonal evolutionary angle to this????

Reason why I ask is that Ive become a bit itchy about my living scene of late, and finally my younger sister arrived tonight to help out. Ive chucked out alot of random stuff/old stuff i'll neve use, old DVDS and the like - have improved the ba area (free standing bar i bought off e bay - quite a winner with the girlz ;)

Im going modern in my tastes again. Have a had a period of buying/acquiring antiques mainly of medieval style circa 1350 - 1650AD

One has to keep the style flowing........

Anthony
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I live in hell. Why isnt there an option for hell?
 
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I'm back with the parents until I can save up and do my thing. Economy is pretty bad and unemployed ATM. But, we've always been pretty clean. I keep my room clean, the house is always clean, and I do my share of yard work. I don't like a dirty house. I spend most of my time at my girl's place anyway, and she's the same way.

-Scars
 
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I find that when my flat is a mess I kind of get depressed. As soon as I clean it up I cheer up a bit.
 
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If things get hectic i'll let it go for a week or so, then clean up. I'm the kind of guy that wont make his bed but i'll kinda fix it making sure the pillows are on top and the covers reasonably flat and ready for the next time I lay to sleep. I'll let my dishes sit for a week tops. My bathroom gets serviced when it either smells or just starts to gross me out.

This all changes if I am having a really hot girl over I really want to hook up with. I'll clean the whole house for that. Might even break the mop out!
 
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I live in a 1 bed apartment.

I would describe it as cluttered, grubby but very comfortable.
Bedding changed weekly....keep on top of the kitchen and bathroom and that's it.

Most of the birds that have been there love it. All say it suits me and are happy to be there

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm remodeling my whole house, so there's tools and clothes and all kinds of sh*t scattered around the entire house.

But it's IMMACULATE when I'm not remodeling.
 
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